[glavine]

She's 13,I Had No Idea, I Just Assumed This Was Someone Much Older, Sorry,
I Didn't Mean To Sound Like I Promoted That Lifestyle,

[awierenga831]

Im 15

[awierenga831]

I was 13 when the rape happened.

[talaniman]

Please talk to a responsible adult, maybe a school counselor, or a trusted teacher and most pastors are trained to help those who need good advice, and though you love him, if your boyfriend cared he would be helping you abstain from sex and he isn't, because he can't. You have been through a trauma, and need time and support, to get through it and over it. No, you are not a whore, just a young female that was victimized by a fool, and is confused about the right thing to do, to help herself. Get the help you need.

[awierenga831]

My boyfriend is helping me a lot right now.
He's really giving courage to do something about it.
And he's been talking to me about it to get the issue solved.
And he's trying to have self control and he's protection me from himself.

[JM_1]

You posted a while ago. I hope you are feeling better about things now.

Do use protection every time you have sex, every time.

Try not to get drunk. Getting drunk often leads to sloppy careless sex and pregnancy.

Find out what sort of free counseling you have available. A lot of schools have a real life proper counselor who comes in for a couple of days a week and meets with students 'one on one'. Counselors of this type are like doctors, they have to keep your secrets and can't go round telling your teachers or others your problems.

Out side your school you my find similar professional counselors through youth mental health programs. Almost every county has a mental health center that provides specialist counseling for teens.

No, you are not mental. You just need a little help and guidance from an adult who is not going to get on your case or think badly of you. Some one other than your parents or teachers. Some one who will keep what you say confidential.

Ask before talking, what privacy you can expect. Don't get fooled by 'youth counselor' who's only skill is throwing a basket ball, or 'school counselors' who are only qualified to help you select English or math courses.

You want a proper mental health counselor, they are the ones who will keep your secrets and help you figure out what you need to do for yourself.

You may also want to mention it when you see your doctor or OBGYN, just ask for a moment in private, and then ask them for a referral for some mental health counseling. (No you are not mental, it's just what they call that type of helper.)

[lonelysoul4ur]

Well although I can understand it can be difficult to quit this addiction, I would suggest a diversion would work, get in to a new clean relationship that you can relate to. Don't volenter yourself to get back to square one and if you still go back, don't stop keep moving on. Remember its not about quitting it, its about denying it with persistence.

[cassandrachal]

Have you thought about going to Sex Addicts Anonymous? I understand where you are coming from when you can't stop having sex. I go to the 12 step meetings and they are helping me. Try and see if there is something like that in you area

[thegreygoose]

I was in your same position...
& trust me I'm not some 20year old who barely remembers anything when I was 15..

I'm 16... my 1st time was when I was 13
I felt like crap & that's the best way to put it
When me and the guy broke up I got depressed & on top of that everyone in the skool knew...
Every time I met someone in 9th grade I was known as the girl who had sex with "cody"

That was a pointless story...
*answer*
Tell him u DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE...
& if your afraid it will hurt his feelings or something explain why

... if he honestly loves you enough, next time you get into "that" situation he should say "stop! u know u dont want to do this!"
After a while not having sex will be easier...

[shady_sh]

Oh yes it is very easy thing

I'm a Muslim and what you are talking about is part of my islam.
That I mustn't have sex with any person except my wife or my husband.
So just try to read about islam
See this links
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/
http://www.islamawareness.net/Sex/fatwa_sex_004.html
http://www.al-islam.org/m_morals/chap2b.htm
http://www.scribd.com/doc/301468/Islamic-Perspective-of-Sex

[Hcanvey]

I want to also stop having sex as my boyfriend doesn't want to anymore. We tried in the past but it's been so hard to stop. It's like there's something inside me that keeps saying I need it. I can't seem to stop the urge. And I want to because well I di sort of think that it should wait till marriage but we had it lots if times before. I see it as showing my love to him but he thinks you dong have to have sex to show your love for them and I agree. It just seems he doesn't want me anymore and u don't feel as sexy anymore. I don't think anyway. I don't want to leave him for it at all. Can someone please help me? I'm 16 going on 17. He's not raping me or anything. The sex is good we use protection and we enjoy it. I'm in desperate need of guidance.

[pulso]

By your comment on “sex is for marriage� I can tell you were taught that value and your right. But the problem is when you experience the pleasure sex brings to you and then it seems as if you don´t have the control any more. I will share with you five things that may help you. First, don´t watch any t.v. program or movies or look at magazines that bring up the topic of sex please. Next, remember to take a way bad habits you must replace it with something good. So your free time look for an activity that you both can do that is pleasant for example exercise, puzzles but do practice it in public areas were people are around. Don´t be up to late or beyond 9:00pm alone with him. The later it is the more sentimental you are and the conversations tend to be so private and as the rule goes a woman opens her soul she will easily open her legs because there was a bonding. I am sure you know the places, moments the circumstances that surround you and that makes it easy for you to have sex evade them. The last but most important is to ask God to help you act upon the right decision at the right moment

[pulso]

By your comment on “sex is for marriage� I can tell you were taught that value and your right. But the problem is when you experience the pleasure sex brings to you and then it seems as if you don´t have the control any more. I will share with you five things that may help you. First, don´t watch any t.v. program or movies or look at magazines that bring up the topic of sex please. Next, remember to take a way bad habits you must replace it with something good. So your free time look for an activity that you both can do that is pleasant for example exercise, puzzles but do practice it in public areas were people are around. Don´t be up to late or beyond 9:00pm alone with him. The later it is the more sentimental you are and the conversations tend to be so private and as the rule goes a woman opens her soul she will easily open her legs because there was a bonding. I am sure you know the places, moments the circumstances that surround you and that makes it easy for you to have sex evade them. The last but most important is to ask God to help you act upon the right decision at the right moment

[J_9]

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