[United Chick]

Hi..
I Have Been Told By My Boyfriends Best Friends That He Does Weed With Them
He Tells Me He Doesn't Do It.. But Everyone Is Saying He Does Do Weed...

Is Their Any Way I Can Find Out If He Does Do Weed Even Though He Tells Me He Doesn't Do It
Like Any Symptoms...
Like The Way He Acts..

Help Me..?

X

[tickle]

Do you mean can you tell if he is buzzed out of his mind, do you mean how his clothes smell when he comes home, do you mean maybe taking a whiff inside his car, do you mean maybe checking his pockets. Or maybe his appetite has increased. I don't know, gee, I have never done weed.

[Illusion]

The smell is the big giveaway. And his behavior - if he is giggly happy.

[flow_girl]

The glazed eyes too. They'll either be blood shot or glassy. Ask him to look you in the eyes and swear to you that he isn't smoking it. If he can't look you in the eyes then those rumors could and might be true. If he does, look for signs of lying. You'll be able to know if you've been dating him for long enough. Example dilated pupils, stammering.

[Clough]

Relationships take maintenance. Which include, but are not limited to effort, trust, honesty, openness, mutual respect, love, etc.

I would straight up and tell him what the friends are saying about him doing weed. Maybe he doesn't know that they are saying these things about him? Maybe you haven't been up-front enough with him? Your post only indicates that "He tells me he doesn't do it."

If he doesn't do weed, I don't know why the friends would be saying that he does. What other reason could possibly be for saying those things?

I see no reason for a "cloak and dagger" approach to this if there is truly a relationship built on the things mentioned above. If he values your relationship, then he would be honest with you.

[flow_girl]

United Chick I'm sorry to tell you but if his friends tell you he does and a number of them have come to you, then the rumours probably and most definitely are true. Why, how do I know so? Same situation. Repeatedly family, friends even my friends parents said they have seen and seen again my boyfriend doing weed when out. I asked him if it was true and he said no. thing is guys who smoke it also lie. People who tell lies get caught out. Tonight when my boyfriend was high, he phoned me and the signs were unmissable. All this time, whilst I knew deep down that what my friends were saying was true, I didn't want to believe it. This time round, there's no escaping it. What's done is done. Thing is sweetie, if his being doing it for a long time, he probably won't stop no matter what he feels for you because its an addiction. You have to question for yourself now, whether you want to be associated with someone who smokes pot. Someone who disrespects you, your wishes and what you believe.

[S_G_05]

When you see him and he's not really acting quick and sharp and is acting slow and abit tired then he has done weed and also you can tell by his eyes, if his eyes are red and his mouth looks dry then he has definantly done weed! X

[MayfairLady]

Sounds like you don't trust your boyfriend when he tells you he doesn't smoke weed. Why do you believe these friends over your boyfriend?