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Kittykingston · May 23, 2007, 06:01 PM

Can I be best friends with a married man? We have become pretty close at work and I have become close to his family as well. He says I am his best friend - is that possible?

CaptainRich · May 23, 2007, 06:45 PM

Sure! Why not? There's a lot of variables, but friendship is an important tool in life. If it's real. Do you have other friends who are in relationships? Are you in a relationship that would hamper contact with his family (that could be bad, by itself)? I, personally, love the idea of external contact with people. It can give reference. Every person I've ever met needs to be sure how they interact with society. How can anybody tell if they matter without "outside" communications. I live in a relationship where contact is limited but not completely gone. I have an injury that keeps me home. Doesn't mean I don't care. Just means I can't move. Keep in contact with this person... just control where it's going... Good luck!

shygrneyzs · May 23, 2007, 07:04 PM

Yes, you can be best friends with a married man. My best male friend is married, have known him since 1974. His wife is a terrific person. So why not just enjoy the friendship and be thankful for having him and his family in your life? Best friends are hard to find.

CaptainRich · May 23, 2007, 07:06 PM

I've been married for going on three decades (not always easy). Longer than a lot of people I know have been alive. That doesn't change anything. But, if you can't communicate, with anyone, you're done. Tell everyone around you how you care about them, in your own way, makes you and them feel important. How can that lead to a rife?? I've forgiven a tremendous "thing" from my past ( read "What now?") and I didn't die. My wife called me an idiot, again. But I put myself out, periodicaly, and perhaps more rarely, but if you can't trust your fellow man...

Skell · May 23, 2007, 08:37 PM

Do you know his wife or does she know of you?

Synnen · May 23, 2007, 08:58 PM

I'm married, and my best friend is a single guy.

My husband knows and likes him.

As long as you are not interfering with his marriage, and none of your "friendship" is something you wouldn't tell your grandmother or his wife about, then there shouldn't be a problem.

fix-what-you-broke · May 24, 2007, 12:15 AM

Yes no problem as long as there is nothing at all going on, you respect the fact that he is married, I don't see a problem, married people are human too haha

talaniman · May 24, 2007, 05:31 AM

If you and his wife get along I see no problem, as long as the boundaries of his marriage is respected. What is your status?

sampatrick · May 16, 2008, 10:00 PM

Of course, you can become his best friend. Friendship is a blessing. True friends are really hard to find. You can send him any best friends day card and some gifts on coming best friends day.

JBeaucaire · May 16, 2008, 10:54 PM

As long as you REALLY didn't leave any critical information out your description and question, then you can be best friends with man, of course.

If you hedged AT ALL, and only you can admit that or not, then you may know the answer is "no" and that's why you omitted the info that made the situation look worse.

Again, only you know for sure.

LeBo414 · May 16, 2008, 11:46 PM

Of course you can have a platonic relationship with a married man, BUT be very careful. One of the laws of attraction is, "You Want What You Can't Have"... Whenever a person share personal things about themselves to another. A level of intimacy is developed
Whether you want it or not. Which can lead to an emotional affair. Even though there has been nothing physical taken place. Being understood, can be a powerful aphrodisiac.. . If the spouse knows of your friendship, It can help to keep things in it's proper perspective, But it's not guaranteed.. Be Careful.

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