[UnwantedHero]

Ive been this girl for on/off for about 3 years now. When we weren't going out we had other small relationships.Now I'm having troubles getting over the fact that she's been kind "slutty" with a few guys doing a fair few sexual acts and whatnot.now the prob is is that I had one relationship where I didn't really score much but my currant did with all those guys.Now she says that it was easy because she had now feelings for them and say that's its hard for her to so she cares in phiscal ways because she "loves" me.Now am I being selfish that I'm not much physical attention when a lot of other guys did?

[steviebeezie]

If this was a new relationship, I'd say, yes, you're being selfish. Many girls like to take time and slowly evolve physical relationships with guys they think they have a future with, but might take things faster with guys who are flings. But you've been with her three years. I hate to say this, but you might consider the fact that she sees you as a "safe" fall back. She may like/love you for who you are, but physically she may not be as interested. Three years, even if on/off, is a lot of time invested. If you want to take the relationship to the next level, you need to ask her some hard questions. Be straight up. Don't let her give you vague waffling answers. You may be better off being just friends with her, or not having anything to do with her at all. I'm sorry if I'm sounding harsh, but I hate to see someone waste their time on a girl who's playing games.

[DocWill]

What is your basic requirements in a relationship? Are these desires reasonably obtainable? Would those desires have some compatibility with the other person? Is the basic reason for success a feeling, status, or trophy. Can you honestly answer with yes, my mother would approve of my relationship goals and readily provide help to achieve them? I am presuming your mom is unlike mine that's been married 6 times. One such experimental marriage she entered was even with an Elvis impersonator. Yeah Im a notch higher in my goal requirements you could say. Even telling that time line portion of my life sends stronger beliefs of the hospital baby swap theory could actually be true. True story,embarrassingly enough, but my point is what do I want an can 2 people enjoy that together. If I am not sure what she wants I need the key to success, Communication.

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DocWill