[jojo43va]

My name is Joanna and I'm nearly 13.. Im 10 and a half stone and find it impossible to lose weight! I feel stressed because of this which leads to me having arguments with everyone! I'm losing everyone slowly and I'm becoming allot more jealous than I was before I put on weight. I hate my life right now and feel the only way out is to commit suicide and end my life!

[jasonbts]

HOLD UP!! Look I understand your point, but think a second, is this issue worth giving up your life? I assure you it's not. People unable to accept you for who you were never your friends in the first place. My sugestion?: Find a religeon. Go to church. Christain and Baptist churches are full of people that look past physical appearance. If you already have a religeon, turn to it now.

[Lacey5765]

Oh JoJo, 13 is such a tuff age. I have a 13 yo daughter who is also overweight but oh so beautiful. Your weight is a very small part of who you are but in our society has become so defining. Please see a doctor. We found that my daughter has a thyroid problem and insulence resistance. She was constantly hungry and didn't know why. Stop focusing on your weight and look to feel good about yourself. Do get out and exercise but don't focus on the weight just how good you feel after a good brisk walk. List 10 things daily that like about yourself ( hair, eyes, kindness, etc) you may be jealous of your friends but they likely have problems of their own. Things will get better and you will see that those teenage years once behind you are soon forgotten. Good luck and talk to your family for support. There is no problem worth taking your life, none!

[fix-what-you-broke]

When you mature you will realize that there is so much more to live for than how much you weigh... I don't even have weighing scales in the house, that's how important it is.
You are 12 years old, what you weight shouldn't be your biggest priority.
I have been there,and back again.I had my son when I was almost 18,and I put on four stone in weight when I was pregnant, think about that, when you are older and you want to start a family are you going to kill yourself if you put on weight, or are you going to be a strong person and do something about it?
When I met my partner I was fretting about the weight around my stomach from the pregnancy, he told me not to worry about it because if I didn't have it my son wouldn't be here.
Weight isn't overly important, unless you are morbidly obeese,eat healthy, exercise,smile and be happy...

[Rockabilly1955mama]

The answers above are the best advice. You do not need to loose weight for people to like you and you most certaintly don't need to give up on life in general. When you are young that's all that matters, your weight, when you grow up you will start to realize that weight doesn't make you YOU.

You make yourself.

[Tuckerboy3]

Im in kinda the same situation but ive never turned to suicide. I think you should see a doctor or someone who can help you lose a few pounds. thats what i did and its tuff but i think that with help you can lose some weight and when you do you will feel so great about yourself. its hard but i think you can work through it!

[Lacey5765]

Jo JO, we would like an update if you can. HOw are you feeling? I have not forgotten you.

[tiarae44]

What's ten and a half stone?

[Liandre]

My name is Joanna and im nearly 13..Im 10 and a half stone and find it impossible to lose weight! i feel stressed because of this which leads to me having arguments with everyone! im loosing everyone slowly and im becoming allot more jealous than i was before i put on weight. i hate my life right now and feel the only way out is to commit suicide and end my life!

Honey I will not tell you what to do, but mostly what I have gone through and a little of what I did about it. I understand your pain. I understand the intensity of it. I I have gone through wanting to kill myself off and on, every 6 weeks or so, mostly because of a chemical imbalance in my brain. It has been part of me for 35 years. I am not saying you have what I have. Only that I know what it's like to hurt. Pain is pain, that is why so many are trying to help you.

It doesn't matter what the reason, but people contemplating suicide have something in common, we gradually lose the ability to cope and begin to entertain ideas of giving up. It becomes more difficult to access the coping skills we have left. The idea is to find new coping skills to help you through it.

Here is the more corny things I've done to keep from plunging down that black pit to begin with. I type out all my feelings on my PC in a sort of a journal. I have a couple good websites and hotlines if I feel really squirrely. You know those people on the other end of the hotlines? Way more nervous than you! I have found out that if you can stay on the phone or online with someone for 1 to 2 hours, the emphasis will wane and you will be OK. I think that your brain can't keep up that intensity of pain for more than 2 hours. It exhausts itself, but don't quote me on that because I am no scientist, LOL. I have written notes to myself when I feel good, to read when I feel bad. I have saved every card anyone has given me and I read them when I am down or have low self esteem issues. I have friends who have written me when I am sick wishing me well and I have printed those and kept them. I have a gratitude list at the bottom of my underwear drawer. It was difficult to write and hard to read, because when I feel like crap I don't want to admit being grateful for anything, but it helps. I also let my family know when I am depressed.

Also, killing yourself is not an easy thing. I have made attempts and it only lead to more trauma than you can imagine. If your pain is overwhelming you, please find someone, call email, whatever it takes, because you do not deserve to be in that much pain. You are a human being and deserve your life. (((HUGS))) ~~~Love, Liandre