[MissBethanie]

My sister Millie Jo passed away February 06 aged 21 months, she died in a tragic accident, she got stuck down the side of her bed, and suffocated. Her death has ruined me and now we might have to move and I don't think I'd cope leaving her room, I know her memories are with me but, I find it comforting to go in her room, to think, cry just to be with her, I feel that she might be still there, I really don't want to leave her room behind, I don't know what to do, it up to my parents if they move but I feel I will lose my Millie.
Bethanie xxxx

[RubyPitbull]

Miss, I am sorry I didn't see this post sooner. This is so very sad and tragic. I am so sorry honey. You are still grieving for your sister and you are not ready to let go. What you are feeling is so normal. I don't know the reasoning behind your parents moving but sometimes, when a parent loses a child, they need to remove themselves from the place that keeps reminding them of that loss. The pain can be too much for some people to bear, and they feel they won't be able to constructively move on with their lives until they start over in a fresh new place. Moving is something that a lot of people do when any loved one passes away. Because this situation is out of your control, I think it would be a good idea for you to speak to your parents about how you feel. Maybe you can come to a compromise. Will they be willing to allow you to keep some items of hers that reminds you of her, such as a blanket, or stuffed animals? What is it that you know she absolutely loved of her toys and possessions? What is it that will make you think of her every time you pick it up? Those items are the ones you should keep with you in your new room. You can create a small area in your new room that will be a "memory place" for you. Such as, on top of a dresser you can place a few of her favorite possessions on it, pictures of her and the entire family, Loving note cards that you have written to her, a piece of her clothing. Whatever gives you a sense of comfort as her bedroom does now for you. Doing this will allow you the time you need to get through the grieving process in your own time and in your own way.