[exquisite]

Now this is very strange... My boyfriend of 4 months with whom I broke merely because of his hot and cold attitude, comes around again and wants to meet me at the motel and says wants to spend some time together. Now I am wondering someone who is not contacting me that much, doesn't text me often of doesn't even call... let's say once in 15days... asks me to meet him at the motel... his reasoning is that at least we get to spend some time together... Can anyone tell me what should I tell him and whether he really means he wants to spend some time... he promises to take me to various places... and all that... what is he up to... please tell... I am confused and need help on this

[Matt3046]

Yes he is using you, at least that's what it sounds like. Either demand proper treatment,(as you see it) or move on.
At least make him buy you dinner.

[Fr_Chuck]

He is not getting lucky anywhere else and wants sex, sounds vary basic to me. Not sure of your age or maturity level, but we get many people here that just "hook up" with people they don't hardly know for sex,

I would say that he is a boy and he is a friend, but a boyfriend is not one that is off and on, and one that does not contact for 2 weeks.

If he called wanting to make up by going out to dinner, or a movie, or even the beach for the weekend, that is trying to make up.
Meeting at the motel, is just what it is, so I guess calling you was cheaping on his credit card than outcall ( not meaning this bad, just trying to get the point of where he is coming from)

[Sunshine2]

First of all, this seems to be a concern to you because you are asking about it. You were not made to be a someone's leftovers. If he can not appreciate you as a person, he is not worth yoour time. Set your standards high and believe that you are much more than a piece of meat. Good Luck

[exquisite]

Thank you I appreciate your answers and help... getting what you'll are saying... we both are mid 30's...

[talaniman]

Meeting someone at a hotel is all about sex, and promising to take you elsewhere, is a story to get you there.

[diya]

Meeting someone at a hotel is all about sex, and promising to take you elsewhere, is a story to get you there.

Absolutely I agree... true very true

[diya]

Why don't you ask him to take you to the beach where there will be a motel and other things for you to do... so u can be happy too... ask him and see what he says...

[fix-what-you-broke]

I think he just wants sex. If he wanted more he would have contacted you sooner.

[Allheart]

Ex Sweetie,

This guy is bad news. You don't need him nor do you want him in your life.

Could he possibly be married? Something is very off with this guy. Take better care of yourself and steer clear of this one.

He has a huge "ick" factor going on.

[diya]

Just doesn't respect you enough... I think you should put your foot down and tell him you're not his booty call... and that he should look elsewhere.. u hv better people to turn to.

[s_cianci]

Tell him to take a flying jump into the nearest lake. He is just using you.

[brkfstatiffs]

Now this is very strange....My boyfriend of 4 months with whom I broke merely because of his hot and cold attitude, comes around again and wants to meet me at the motel and says wants to spend some time together. Now I am wondering someone who is not contacting me that much, doesn't text me often of doesn't even call...let's say once in 15days....asks me to meet him at the motel...his reasoning is that atleast we get to spend some time together...Can anyone tell me what should I tell him and whether he really means he wants to spend some time....he promises to take me to various places...and all that...what is he upto...please tell...I am confused and need help on this

Okay what good boyfriend or man of any self worth would call you up and ask to meet at a Motel? You are a person, not a prostitute. Move on. Don't sit around wondering or waiting, go out and live life, have fun, meet new men.