[curlybenswife]

Oh I know its just crazy but flipping amazing too I think it took her about 3 months of constant building and tinkering to complete it but then she is a real crafty type of person she used to make rag dolls for a living when we were kids.

[alkalineangel]

I never got much into dollhouses. I used to make dresses for my barbies and baby dolls though.

[startover22]

Hi, I have a job today and I don't want to do it! It needs to be done! I don't want to do it. Have I already said that? Anyway, how ar you guys today? I forgot to tell Synnen, that I am proud of her for not smoking any more earlier today! Good job. I need to get my stupid budget together and it is confusing the hell out of me, I never have had one before and I guess today is a very good day to start... I don't want to do it though!

[alkalineangel]

It sux, but it is worth it.. man, everything changed once we got on a budget... Dave Ramsey changed my life..

[startover22]

I read his book. I am having a hard time getting my husband to believe in the "system' dave uses. Do you do it by the book? I changed my question because it was inappropriate. I just got everything organized, now for the when and how to do it, the first month is always the hardest.

[alkalineangel]

Yep... well not for daycare or bills or mortgage, because those are automatic drafts, but We use the envelopes for groceries, clothing, "fun Money", doctors bills, gas, etc...

[startover22]

Ok I am eating lunch right now and I am calling my husband to buy envolopes and to swing by the bank... This might just work. This day is getting better and better, and my lunch is fabulous! Hus to ALKALINE!! The little angel!

[alkalineangel]

Just remmeber, when its gone, its gone... thats the hardest part. You will be tempted to refill those suckers... and remember it takes at least 3 months for a budget to really get into the swing of things. You will have to tweak it a few times to get it running smoothly... but after a few months, you will love it and never go back. Good luck hun, we are almost debt free now. Just the car (about 2 grand), and student loans left. Then we start going strong on the house. I plan to have it paid off in 10 years... which hopefully will happen in 8... lol.

[curlybenswife]

I don't see any money at all ben deals with everything as he is the only earner :D

[startover22]

I have a small set of goals and that is to finally be able to pay all of our monthly bills on time. Then the truck! Thanks, the advice will not be taken lightly. I am head strong about this budget crap! Have a wonderful day!

[JoeCanada76]

I dont see any money at all ben deals with everything as he is the only earner :D

It is the same in my families situation. I am the one that deals with financial.

[chippers]

I dont see any money at all ben deals with everything as he is the only earner :D

Um to risk the wrath of my fellow goddesses cbw, but I have to disagree with you but I didn't want to do it by reputation. You say Ben is the only earner, as a stay at home wife for a while, I have to ssay this. You cook, clean, Millie doena't take care of her self. You take care of cute little Hawwee, the garden, the house, grocery shop, and whatever else I can't think of at the moment. Trust me the list goes on and on and on... as my fellow goddesses can attest to. Plus who takes care of Ben when he's not feeling good? Twice in 2 years I've kept mr. chippers in stable health after being in the hospital twice. Kept the home front going while he was in Iraq, and kept the kids from driving me crazy. You do more in a day that most hubbies do in a week. If the average house wife were to get paid for what they do at home. (not counting the ancillary errands like docotr appts, cleaners, post office trips and occasionally keeping huuby calm when he can't find that particular tie. Espceially when its around his neck) we would make thegross income of 125,000 a year.
Oh yeah as far as money in my household goes, he drops off the check and says here you go. He wouldn't know what was in the bank if the check book bit him in the arse.( I hate this part cause when a letter comes he says why didn't I pay this.) he's lucky he don't eat the letter.
But as I slowly try to regain my sanity from a very hectic weekend, I want you my fellow goddess to see just how much you do and to consider yourself a wage earner in your own right.

Now I'll go back into my corner and mumble to myself again.


Chippers

[curlybenswife]

That's what I meant too, calm down women I'm fully aware of what I do but I have no need to actually have any money I don't shop or anything he does it all wheres the problem with that?? Im sorry if you don't like the way I live but I'm happy so tough really.
I don't get involved it because I have more than enough to do and I believe it's the husbands deal to provide for his family and if that means taking care of the bills then so be it christ I'm not going to stop him its one less thing I have to do.
He even does all the ironing and we share the house work I'm sorry but we are a lot more eqaul than any of you know.
So please don't judge me you have NO right to do so.

[chippers]

Oh sweetie, I'm so very sorry. I wasn't judging you. I have no right to do that. I was just pointng out the value of the housewife. Iwish Mr. chippers was more like Ben. It's hard dealing with everything and coming up to task when he feels something wasn't done when it was.
I would never ever offend you or anyone else. I'm not like that. I see a lot of women having to bow to their husbands will. Wvewn those who work. I once saw two women walk behind their husbands with their heads bowwed. It was so demeaning to watch it broke my heart. One husband(I use the term loosely with him. He was more like a task master) sit on his fat arse while his wife emtpied a huge grocery cart. He only got up to help her when he saw every woman and man around him stair at him.

The only thing I disagreed with was the earner part. As a stay at home housewife, we do more work than the average man does at a full time job. Maybe I didn't explain it properly. I'm sorry Laura, I wouldn't hurt you for the world.

In my neighborhood they have a name for stay at home mms like me. FEMS formerly employed mothers and I hate it. But I do it for the kids and watch them grow. You don't get this time back again.

I would never judge you or anyone else. As you are right No one has the right to judge anyone. To value the person you are yes we can do that, but not judge.

[curlybenswife]

Ive always considered myself lucky to have ben he isn't a typical guy and if anyone bows to anyone he bows to me everything we do is eqaul any dr's aps or hospital aps he takes the time off and takes us I get driven everywhere.
He does the weekly shop he does the ironing he does all the vacuming he has never been one to come home and say I've done a days work I'm going to sit on my and do nothing he comes in he cooks millies dinner and he baths her and I just get her ready for bed then I have a bath while they have her bedtime milk and watch a cartoon before he puts her to bed.
Nothing in this house is one sided and I get a little fed up when people think its normal for a women to do absolutely everything I've never been that meek and I never will.

[chippers]

Me either. My husband comes home and everyone has to be quiet. I understand his need to collect himself but there are better ways to do than make 2 active kids be silent. He wants to hear no problems and doesn't really handle the surprises well. But other than that we do well together.
I've been sick for a while and he's picked up the slack for me. But I hear the grumbling. I'm also fed up with people who judge housewives. Talking down to them because they don't bring home a paycheck.
When they hear I used to work, the comment is Well you're going back right? I get defensive when people undermine what we do. That's all I was talking about in my post. I think my irratation got the better of me and it my sentiment didn't come out the way I wanted it to.
Plus I doubt very much those insensitive people who feel able to comment on what I do could really do my job as a nurse anyway. I did it for 21 years and I wanted a break. I needed one. Still I'm looked at as irresponsible for walking a way and wanting to be an at home mother for a while. Mr. chippers doesn't defend me either. Other than to say, ahh she's got it easy. No I don't. I still have to work through the reasons I walked away in the first place. But right now I'm fine with my housewife duties.
I came across as judging because I was judging myself after letting the moral majority get to me. Thank you for your honest reply. I wasn't judging you just defending the housewife. Not just you but all of us who are content with our choices.

[curlybenswife]

Its just important to remember we are all different and every women deals with there home lives differently.
I could say the same about my job there's a few here id like to see crumble in a pro kitchen for 18 hours or run a bar on your own dealing with the drunks no ones job is easy but its our choice and we generally do it because we love it.
Enough on this subject its got way out of hand I'm far to hormonal and ill happily rip any one apart at the moment even ben lol

[Allheart]

Knock knock... anyone home :).

Good Morning one and all.

Spoke with Beautiful J last night and once again, she misses her other pea in her pod. Dad is still holding on. Keep the prayers coming.

Me on the other hand, well we rushed Mom in law to the hospital on Sunday. Maybe a mini stroke or just a warning. See, she's a stubborn gal and is just so proud of the fact that at 82 she is only on an aspirn. Although every time she is seen by a Doc, her pressure is through the roof. Well, she talks herself out of it and they deduct that she has white coat blood pressure. As my head spin off my shoulders.

Well, low and behold Sunday she had a little forgetful spell and now is in the hospital and is being given some BP meds. FINALLY! I told her that she is just going to have to concede, that she needs the BP meds.

Anyway, stress levels are pretty high and my doc doubled my dose of my med yesterday.
I yi yi.

I hope all of you are well.

Hubby and I had a little rought over Paris Hilton LMAO. Hee hee. We drive in work together and as he was dropping me off he said, now get your naïve arse out of the car grrrrrrr. But I think he said it with love.

We've been doing 1/2 days of work and then running to the hospital. When you have a loved one in there, it is so important to be there and catch the doctors for their 5 minute visit. If you miss them, you spend nearly a whole day trying to figure out what is going on.

I tell you what though, if God made anything better than nurses, well I am sure he did, but boy oh boy, how I love the nurses. They are so amazing, have so much to do and yet are so caring and kind.

Well, I hope all of you are doing well.

Much love and many hugs

[curlybenswife]

AAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWW I miss my pea too bless her.

Blimey sounds like you have had a right few days hunny sending you lots of hugs xxxxxxx

[chippers]

Saturday I had my youngest son in the ER and my oldest hidng behind the couch. They were playing rough and my little guy got hurt. My older one was sure he was going to be arrested for hurting him. Tried to reassure him that they don't arrest little boys for spraining their brothers little finger. But I do believe it put the fear of god in him. He's been towing te line. I think the fact he had his allowance suspended for a month helped too.

I'm glad your mom in law saw the light. Not too many do and their attacks get worse. It's tough running back and forth between work and someone in the hospital. Just don't spread yurself too thin. Or we'll be pealing you off the walls. Hehe.

The boys have a half day of school today due to elections whoopeeee! I'm so glad they do voting in schools.
Oh man this mood I'm in makes me unfit for human cmpany. It's not me and I hate it. Maybe a little retail therapy will help. I want to go to the candy store in the mall and get jelly bellies. A little sweet therapy that is. Maybe sugar withdraw is my problem. I even bought taco bell for lunch yesterday and didn't eat it. I think the mily way candy bar had something to do with it.
I got the okay from the neurologist to go back to the gym. As long as I start slow and build it up that was nice to hear.
So off I go and mean that in all tenses. Hehe.

Have a lovely day my fellow goddesses.

Chippers