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Krs · May 2, 2007, 12:16 AM

My good mate of over 13 years has some problems. Her twin brother is a mess.
He is on heroine big time, he moved up to ireland to live with her, whilst she was on holiday he stole her CD player, 250 euros to buy heroine. She kicked him out as he was living off her, staying at hers for free, food for free.

She msged me yest almost in tears she said he is out on the streets, the mother stopped all contact with him years ago because he has been like this forever, he used to steal money from his mum, and students she hosted in her home. The father is out of the picture however he still stole from the dad.

I want to know what sort of advice to give my friend. She dislikes what he did but at the end of the day he is her twin and I think she feels responsible.

He isn't a kid he is 28... he is selfish and immature.

Help!

jarrhead50 · May 2, 2007, 01:22 AM

Originally Posted by Krs

My good mate of over 13 years has some problems. Her twin brother is a mess.
He is on heroine big time, he moved up to ireland to live with her, whilst she was on holiday he stole her CD player, 250 euros to buy heroine. She kicked him out as he was living off her, staying at hers for free, food for free.

She msged me yest almost in tears she said he is out on the streets, the mother stopped all contact with him years ago becuase he has been like this forever, he used to steal money from his mum, and students she hosted in her home. The father is out of the picture however he still stole from the dad.

I want to know what sort of advice to give my friend. She dislikes what he did but at the end of the day he is her twin and i think she feels responsible.

He isnt a kid he is 28... he is selfish and immature.

help!

I think you have done the right thing unless you won't a drug addic in your house from

jarrhead50

Krs · May 2, 2007, 04:35 AM

Have u read my post at all?? I haven't really given my friend any advice...

Im seeking advice here on what sort of advice to give my friend!

Tuscany · May 2, 2007, 04:56 AM

Oh Krs this is a hard one.
Your friend feels like she should do something because he is her brother. You feel like you should do something because she is your friend. But ultimately it is him that needs to seek her to get help. You can only help an addict when they want it.

It give your friend a lot of credit for kicking him out. That is the first step to making him accountable for his actions. I know that it was not easy for her. The best thing you could do is just listen to her. Don't bash the brother for what he did (she can do that because he is her brother, but you can't). Just listen and don't be judgemental against the brother. Tell her to stay strong. If he comes back, tell her to take him to a rehab place. This is not something she can do on her own.

I am not sure how helpful I was... but just listen. Sometimes that is all we need :)