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a_broken_promise · Apr 30, 2007, 07:29 AM

I got out of a HUGE relationship with James. We dated for over a year and I loved him. But then we broke up and ever since I've been jumping from guy to guy. Until I found one I ended up falling in love with. He said he loved me. He said he would never, could never, break up with me. But then one day my ex, James, texted me saying I still love you. And naturally I said it back. Anthony found out on Friday and on Saturday, also my 16th birthday I got a myspace message saying "i think we should break up. we can still be friends. i hope you have a great birthday." well on Monday I found out that wasn't the only reason I got dumped. I almost broke down when I saw him with her. I don't know her though. But I shall have my revenge. But what I want to know is... now what? Did he mean those things he said to me? If he did could he do what he did? And most importantly... how do I get revenge? :confused:

Northwind_Dagas · Apr 30, 2007, 11:12 AM

Don't you think you're being a bit selfish and hypocritical? You want your boyfriend to be true but think it is okay to profess your love to your ex? There's no need for revenge, as you are the one that started this ball rolling. Even if he was interested in seeing someone else before he found out about your message to James, it is clear you still want James and not Anthony. How can you possibly blame Anthony for looking elsewhere when you clearly don't care for him?

Rockabilly1955mama · Apr 30, 2007, 11:15 AM

Revenge doesn't hurt anyone but yourself. You have james, don't you?

Schollmeyer · Apr 30, 2007, 11:16 AM

Sorry but you messed up and you cannot blame james,and if it was a test you failed

a_broken_promise · Apr 30, 2007, 02:29 PM

No you guys are missing it completely... I didn't mean to say it! Its just what I'm used to saying to him because the last time I talked to him we were together. Plus today I found out that didn't matter to anthony at all. He had really dumped me for another girl. And he just had to make it seem like it was all my fault. What a jerk. And I know revenge is a bad idea but I was angry and hurt when I wrote this. I'm not one to get revenge.

alizeblu · Apr 30, 2007, 02:44 PM

No need for revenge, move on.

Northwind_Dagas · Apr 30, 2007, 03:05 PM

Originally Posted by a_broken_promise

no you guys are missing it completely...i didnt mean to say it! its just what im used to saying to him because the last time i talked to him we were together.

Come on, you don't really expect us to believe that do you? Had you "said it," perhaps it could have just been a slip. But you said he texted you, which means you TYPED it back to him. While it's possible to say something off the cuff by mistake, typing something out on your phone takes a bit more concentration than that.

Be mad at Anthony all you want, but you are obviously still hung up over James. You were not truthful about your feelings to Anthony, so you can't blame him for looking elsewhere.

a_broken_promise · May 1, 2007, 06:49 AM

... your right. I still love james, but I love anthony too. But they are both over me.

Rockabilly1955mama · May 1, 2007, 10:42 AM

It's time to move on. There are plenty of fishes in the sea that will love you back. It's better for you, easier to just love one at a time though.

SnaveLeber · May 1, 2007, 09:27 PM

Originally Posted by a_broken_promise

i got out of a HUGE relationship with James. we dated for over a year and i loved him. but then we broke up and ever since ive been jumping from guy to guy. until i found one i ended up falling in love with. he said he loved me. he said he would never, could never, break up with me. but then one day my ex, James, texted me saying i still love you. and naturally i said it back. anthony found out on friday and on saturday, also my 16th birthday i got a myspace message saying "i think we should break up. we can still be friends. i hope you have a great birthday." well on monday i found out that wasnt the only reason i got dumped. i almost broke down when i saw him with her. i dont know her though. but i shall have my revenge. but what i want to know is...now what? did he mean those things he said to me? if he did could he do what he did? and most importantly...how do i get revenge? :confused:

Whoah... yeah you definitely shouldn't have told the other guy you loved him. Not cool. At least as far as you know this newer guy waited to talk to this girl until AFTER he broke up with you. You didn't want to get hurt? Neither did he

LuvMyMaltipoo · May 1, 2007, 09:35 PM

Originally Posted by a_broken_promise

...your right. i still love james, but i love anthony too. but they are both over me.

I don't believe you love either one of them. I think you love the idea of having them both around but unfrotunately you cannot have that. You should not seek revenge on this girl you don't even know. She did nothing wrong and she probably has no idea who you are.

And I surely don't believe that text message was an accident, it was just an accident that you got caught.

You made mistakes and learned from them and they will only make you wiser in your next relationship.

Rockabilly1955mama · May 3, 2007, 08:19 AM

Originally Posted by LuvMyMaltipoo

I don't believe you love either one of them. I think you love the idea of having them both around but unfrotunately you cannot have that. You should not seek revenge on this girl you don't even know. She did nothing wrong and she probably has no idea who you are.

And I surely don't believe that text message was an accident, it was just an accident that you got caught.

You made mistakes and learned from them and they will only make you wiser in your next relationship.

Very good answer. You made the mistakes and now you have to learn from them.

alizeblu · May 4, 2007, 07:15 PM

1st of all love triangles are just bull, second, move on you're going to keep hurting them including yourself. Just leave them alone and grow up a little.