[robertsqueen]

Me and my husband have a wonderful relationship. We communicate very well with each other. Last night he told me that he is getting bored of our nighttime rountine. We usually will put our son to bed, watch a movie, or just talk, then I will take a bath (it relaxes me) then we go to bed. I expressed to him that we really do that much at night because we have a little boy and I don't want to disrupt his schedule. He asked me why I take a bath every night. I take a bath because it relaxes me and it is something that I do for myself. It also helps me sleep better. Do you think that I shoud give up my alone time to satify him? I don't think I should have to. That is the only time that I get to myself during the day. Is there anything that I can do to apease him, with out disrupting my son's sleep or schedule. During the day we go to the park, and go for walks to get him out of the house, this is after I get off work or get out of a full day of schoo. Is it wrong that at night I just want to relax after a long day? Any advice would be wonderful... beucase I am stumped. Lol.

[Krs]

Suggest having a hot bath together sometime.

[missk]

Maybe you should ask him-"If you are bored of our nightime routine, then what do you suggest we do about it?" I understand that it can get boring, but you're right-with the baby it's better to have routine right now. I think he needs to be patient and realize that it's not going to be like this forever. Have you explained to him how important it is that you have some alone time to yourself? Maybe you should give him just a little more attention than usual-spice up the sex life a little. I think sometimes we all want a little extra attention. Do you two ever go out alone together without the baby?

[robertsqueen]

To Krs. I have tried the asking him to join me... he dosen't like baths.
To Missk... I asked him what he thinks we should do.. he just told me that he dosen't know. I told hm that when bay gets older that it will be funner but he just shrugs. I did spice up the sex life... even though I really don't ever feel like sex. We try to go out without the baby but the only people that we trust to babysit is my sister and mom. I am very protective and so is he. I don't know what is wrong with us. We talk great.. he is very informative as am I. He is just mad beucase he watches bay everyday and works at night. That will change after next week because school is out. I just don't want this routine stuff to ruin our relationship you know?

[Krs]

Then still enjoy your bath alone :)

This is a difficult stage for a couple. Just stick together and by time all will get better.

[talaniman]

We guys do get jealous with all the attention the baby gets, but we get over it. Have your bath at night, as you need that alone time, but just curious what would your husband rather be doing at night?

[robertsqueen]

He likes to go out and run around... or go for a drive like we used to do. I told him that we can't do that anymore beucase bay needs to sleep. It is like he is getting sick of his life. We talk but sometimes I wonder. When I ask him, he says of course not. But what else could be wrong. I know that bay is hard to take care of, and that he works two partime jobs one each night. But that is life you know? I work, go to school and take care of bay.

[Emland]

Can you take a little shorter bath and spend that extra time with him? Sounds like he is feeling a little left out.

[robertsqueen]

I only take a 5 to ten minute bath... and he sits in there and talks to me. I have to have a bath to sleep at ngiht. I used to take sleeping pills but now I take a bath to relax