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angelbabe1759 · Apr 24, 2007, 01:14 PM

Me and my boyfrien have been dating for almost a year, I'm 16 now and we are already in love and talking about getting married when I turn 18. He will be 19. We are so much in love. Of course we argue, but we always make it right. At the moment we are living in different states and have been for 8 months andit is still working. He trusts me andi trust him.. so what do you think, of course my parents think its too young but we will have been dating for 3 years by that time.. they like him but what us to wait and not plan so far ahead but I can't imagine my life without him...

Emland · Apr 24, 2007, 01:19 PM

So, you have been dating for one year but separated for the last 8 months and in 2 years time you will have been dating for 3? Get to 18 before you start planning your wedding. So much can happen by then.

If you get to 18 and can support yourself and want to get married there is nothing stopping you.

Secret_J · Apr 24, 2007, 01:24 PM

Love goes beyond just feelings, especially if you are talking about marriage. It's not just the age factor but ask yourself, are you ready to commit to the emotional and financial responsibilities that a marriage expects from you?

I agree - wait until you turn 18. Who knows if you are even still with him by then.

kp2171 · Apr 24, 2007, 02:43 PM

I think its too young. I think you are in love, but that your understanding of love and relationships will likely evolve for some time. Waiting a few more years won't hurt.

I dated a girl through 2 years HS, all of college, 1 year med school. Yes we were in love, yes we talked about marriage. Right down to the dress she wanted and where wed live.

I'm so damn glad we didn't marry. We were right for each other early on, but things changed. Being married would not have saved it. It was better to wait a few years and see how we matured. Really, really better.

And then my best friend in college did the same thing... dated his HS sweetheart through college. They married after, when he was 24 and she was 22. In their situation, a few more years of growing helped then know it was right.

So... I really think you are in love. I also think you might want to give a little more time to see if things are right. If you are still together then there you go. It isn't disrespectful of the relationship to wait a little longer.

Of course people marry later and it doesn't always work and people marry younger and sometimes it lasts the ages.

If you were my daughter, and I have one who is 20, id encourage you to wait a while, even if the guy was one I admired and "approved" of. Personally, I really didn't know myself well enough until I was probably 25-ish.

Marriage is great when its done right. Its also work when its done right. No harm in you taking a little more time... but then its all up to you.