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akms · Apr 22, 2007, 10:07 AM

I'm always depressed and I feel like drud I'm 11 and no one cares at school I hide my face and try not to get called on life seems pointless unfair and hopeless I'm transgender female to male and there's so many homophobes I just want to stop trying I stayed back a year and my parents are getting divorced.

What should I do?? :confused: :mad: :( :confused: :confused:

Thanks

-Alex

Confuzzledmonkey · Apr 22, 2007, 12:18 PM

Do you have any friends? Every time you feel upset just think about how much they or your family care I used to be kind of deppressed but I'm much better now. I'm taking it your going onto a new school soon ( depends whether your british or not ) try make a new start there make sure you socialise and don't hide your face, think of it the whole point of getting a trangender is to make you happier, make sure you feel good and the rest will follow.

dherman1 · Apr 22, 2007, 12:38 PM

I understand what you are feeling. Sometimes the painf of dying appears to be less than the pain to go on living. I got myself into trouble with an addiction to gambling.

One night (morning), on the way back from the casino where I lost everything I had won that day. Including the check for $8K that I won and swore that I wasn't going to anything but deposit the money. I found myself so despondent that I started to head for the side of the bridge.

As I was getting closer, a care came out of nowhere and I found myself swerving to avoid hitting them. All I wanted to do was to take myself out and no one else. Then, God put pictures of my kids in my head and I realized that I wanted to be around for them to grow up.

Good luck and feel free to post any questions and I or someone will get back to you.

If you find yourself seriously pondering suicide, take a few moments to breathe and either think about the good things in your life or head for the nearest emergency room. (Preferally both)

Take Care, Dan

JoeCanada76 · Apr 22, 2007, 01:08 PM

What you should do. Absolutely do nothing. See what you are trying to do is live up to expectations of other people. Never ever live up to the expectations of other people. What you need to learn is how to be happy with who you think you are and learn how to say to yourself that you do not need anybody to approve or dissapprove. You need to show strength, you need to feel that you are a good person. At being so young, the future holds whatever you make of it. Your thoughts create your environment, your thoughts actually determine what you go through in life. You need to learn how to change the way you think, and stop worrying about what other people think or say because honestly none of that matters.

Counseling is very important as well. Hope you can see a school counselor or somebody else.

Your family is going through a rough time right now, but honestly if you learn from it and grow from it. You will, and your future will be better and brighter. Does not mean you will go through rough times but it is important to grow and learn and know that the easy way out will only cause you an eternity of pain.

JOE

Fr_Chuck · Apr 22, 2007, 01:09 PM

Often people appear to hate us because of misconceptions and often even our own actions toward them.

There are many local resourse for you
800-879-1999 for sexual issues
800-621-4000 for suicide issues
800-522-teen for someoen to talk to on teen issues

There are many local resourses from the health department for counseling
Also there are school couselors and local support groups for people that have sexual challenges.

akms · Apr 22, 2007, 01:53 PM

I'm 11 I'm not a teen and when I let down my guard everything becomes worse not better

Marissa890 · Apr 22, 2007, 06:39 PM

OK, akms, these people are trying to help you and you just get mad. If you can tell, these people actually care for your sake and don't want you to make a mistake and ruin your life. People in this world are cruel. I'm 15, and I don't quite know what your going through, but when I was 11, I was the social outcast. No one wanted to be my friend, I had no friends. My parents thought everything was fine, so they didn't know. I finally went to a different school, got friends who liked me for me, but they weren't really all that supportive, I finally went to where I am today, and I love it. My friends love me for me, just wait till you get to high school. There are sooo many people who are just like you and who you can get along with. So listen to these people above. They just want to help. Its not going to help your situation any if you just get mad at everyone. You don't need to let your guard down. Just don't always think everyone hates you. Step out of your comfort zone and show people that your normal and fun to be around. Chances are that they judge you for your sexuality. If they get to know the real you, they'll change. And if nothing gets better, seriously consider going to a church or w/e your religion is and talk to somebody. I promise they'll help you. They just want the best for you. And don't get mad so easily, you'll just keep making yourself feel worse.

Confuzzledmonkey · Apr 22, 2007, 10:38 PM

Yes and on your first day at high school don't act like you already are the social outcast because this state of mind will not help you make new friends, try be friendly and smile a lot. If anybody asks you if your transgender tell them the thruth because if you lied and it came out you'd be in hot water.

akms · Apr 23, 2007, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by Marissa890

ok, akms, these people are trying to help you and you just get mad. if u can tell, these people actually care for your sake and don't want you to make a mistake and ruin your life. people in this world are cruel. im 15, and i don't quite kno wat your going through, but when i was 11, i was the social outcast. no one wanted to be my friend, i had no friends. my parents thought everything was fine, so they didn't kno. i finally went to a different school, got friends who liked me for me, but they weren't really all that supportive, i finally went to where i am today, and i love it. my friends lvoe me for me, just wait till u get to high school. there are sooo many people who are just like you and who you can get along with. so listen to these people above. they just want to help. its not going to help your situation any if u just get mad at everyone. u don't need to let your guard down. just don't always think everyone hates you. step out of your comfort zone and show people that your normal and fun to be around. chances are that they judge you for ur sexuality. if they get to know the real you, they'll change. and if nothing gets better, seriously consider going to a church or w/e your religion is and talk to somebody. i promise they'll help you. they just want the best for you. and don't get mad so easily, you'll just keep making yourself feel worse.

the thing is my school is great when it comes to support in the way of no teasing policies or I would have killed myself by know so I don't want to go to a new school but I've thought of it and the fact that another person thinks it's a good idea might make me change my mind

akms · Apr 23, 2007, 05:21 PM

Originally Posted by Confuzzledmonkey

Yes and on your first day at highschool dont act like you already are the social outcast because this state of mind will not help you make new friends, try be friendly and smile a lot. if anybody asks you if your transgender tell them the thruth because if you lied and it came out you'd be in hot water.

I always tell people I'm transgender I hate lying and I feel reallyyyy depressed for monthes after I've lied

akms · Apr 23, 2007, 05:23 PM

Originally Posted by Marissa890

ok, akms, these people are trying to help you and you just get mad. if u can tell, these people actually care for your sake and don't want you to make a mistake and ruin your life. people in this world are cruel. im 15, and i don't quite kno wat your going through, but when i was 11, i was the social outcast. no one wanted to be my friend, i had no friends. my parents thought everything was fine, so they didn't kno. i finally went to a different school, got friends who liked me for me, but they weren't really all that supportive, i finally went to where i am today, and i love it. my friends lvoe me for me, just wait till u get to high school. there are sooo many people who are just like you and who you can get along with. so listen to these people above. they just want to help. its not going to help your situation any if u just get mad at everyone. u don't need to let your guard down. just don't always think everyone hates you. step out of your comfort zone and show people that your normal and fun to be around. chances are that they judge you for ur sexuality. if they get to know the real you, they'll change. and if nothing gets better, seriously consider going to a church or w/e your religion is and talk to somebody. i promise they'll help you. they just want the best for you. and don't get mad so easily, you'll just keep making yourself feel worse.

Oh and just saying I'm not religious sorry I'm just not

TheSavage · Apr 23, 2007, 05:35 PM

Originally Posted by akms

oh and just saying im not religous sorry im just not

Heck --nor am I -- but that's not to say that a good preacher could not help you.

They are trained councilors in most cases and are required by their faith to kept their mouths shut.
You do not have to believe in their god to ask for their help -- Savage

akms · Apr 23, 2007, 05:43 PM

Well I do see a "army" of therapists but normaly I'm on my happy side of the scale of my manic depression so nothing comes out

Confuzzledmonkey · Apr 23, 2007, 10:26 PM

Well if can admit that you do have a problem that is a start even being prepared to talk about it on here is great, it shows you know you have a problem and want to solve it.

Why are you usually on the happy side of the scale? Is there a sport or an activity that you really enjoy? Is there a club for it in your area? Because joining a club or group will help you enjoy yourself more often and will help you get to know more people (assuming they don't also reject you) and if they do the great thing is you can just quit no questions asked.

akms · Apr 24, 2007, 07:21 PM

Originally Posted by Confuzzledmonkey

well if can admit that you do have a problem that is a start even being prepared to talk about it on here is great, it shows you know you have a problem and want to solve it.

Why are you usually on the happy side of the scale? is there a sport or an activity that you really enjoy? is there a club for it in your area? because joining a club or group will help you enjoy yourself more often and will help you get to know more people (assuming they dont also reject you) and if they do the great thing is you can just quit no questions asked.

I have manic depression a lot of the time I see therapists I'm in happy mode and I can't see why I was ever depressed so in the end nothing comes out. I skateboard a lot

hannah_banana91 · Jun 10, 2008, 10:26 PM

Originally Posted by akms

im always depressed and i feel like drud im 11 and no one cares at school i hide my face and try not to get called on life seems pointless unfair and hopeless im transgender female to male and theres so many homophobes i just wanna stop trying i stayed back a year and my parents are getting divorced.

what should i do???:confused: :mad: :( :confused: :confused:

thanks

-Alex

[email protected]. Email me. I care. I'm 17 years old, my name is hannah and I love everyone. I don't judge sexual preferences including changes in gender

andy305mia · Jun 10, 2008, 11:07 PM

Look first what you got to do is find a friend that you can do talk 2 or an adult. Tell them how you feel and wats going on in your life because you will feel a lot better. And everyone has a purpose in life. You are only 11 u got of good things coming ahead of you and your parents divorce don't worry about it there towards each other might be over but there love towards you will never leave there hearts. All you need is to be more outspoken it helps out a lot it helped me and I gurranty it will help u.

emo_girl_meg · Jun 21, 2008, 11:34 AM

Originally Posted by akms

im always depressed and i feel like drud im 11 and no one cares at school i hide my face and try not to get called on life seems pointless unfair and hopeless im transgender female to male and theres so many homophobes i just wanna stop trying i stayed back a year and my parents are getting divorced.

what should i do???:confused: :mad: :( :confused: :confused:

thanks

-Alex

Its OK to think that way I'm 12 and my life sucks I have 2 real friends I'm a total outcast don't feel so bad things will eventually get better I wish I could really talk to you I fell for you. Loud music (death metal) always helped me. Hope things get better. If you need support e-mail me at [email protected].

emo_girl_meg · Jun 21, 2008, 11:35 AM

Originally Posted by akms

im always depressed and i feel like drud im 11 and no one cares at school i hide my face and try not to get called on life seems pointless unfair and hopeless im transgender female to male and theres so many homophobes i just wanna stop trying i stayed back a year and my parents are getting divorced.

what should i do???:confused: :mad: :( :confused: :confused:

thanks

-Alex

Its OK to think that way. Just keep holding on.you will find someone who cares. I'm 12 and my life sucks I have 2 real friends I'm a total outcast don't feel so bad things will eventually get better I wish I could really talk to you I fell for you. Loud music (death metal) always helped me. Hope things get better. If you need support e-mail me at [email protected].:)

elvsforlyfe · Jun 21, 2008, 07:04 PM

Originally Posted by akms

im always depressed and i feel like drud im 11 and no one cares at school i hide my face and try not to get called on life seems pointless unfair and hopeless im transgender female to male and theres so many homophobes i just wanna stop trying i stayed back a year and my parents are getting divorced.

what should i do???:confused: :mad: :( :confused: :confused:

thanks

-Alex

With the whole thing about your parents getting a divorce, don't think that it is your fault because it is not! My parents got a divorce the same age as you and I went into depression too. But, I talked to people. So my advice to you is to talk to people like your friends that you trust, and talk to them about what you are going through in your life!