[Fr_Chuck]

I think, there are things not being said. Yes he has a truck, so it is a work truck, he uses it, I am sure everyday shopping, going to the store, and so on. My son does the same (no he does not have another car he uses, so, why can't he use the truck to meet.

[talaniman]

Seems obvious if you had other options then you wouldn't have to wonder about meeting this fellow at all, you would just check out someone else. On the other hand, given the proper precautions, why wouldn't you meet and see what happens? That's the whole dating experience, and you are under no obligation to have a second meeting/date.

LOL, online dating should come with a rigorous background check, and a mandatory course in how to have good clean (SAFE) adult fun. If you are going to date online, it's best to leave the romantic notions out of it, and see if the stranger is fun enough to get to know ASAP, because why waste the time?

Since you don't like on line dating, out of fear I bet, then what's wrong with asking guys you know out for coffee, a meal, or a show? Is this your FIRST online dating experience?

[jackies202]

Fr Chuck thank you he said he does not have the truck for work that's why I'm a little curious how does he get around etc. That would be no issue if he had that. No I have been online dating before it just seems its not working for me at least not now.

[talaniman]

The beauty of online dating is you don't have to assume, or be curious, you just ask what you want to know. No matter what they say you are the judge if it is sufficient or not. If it's not, you simply move on to the next one. Be it online or in person, the dating rule is generally "You kiss a lot of frogs until one turns into a prince(ss)".

Tired of frogs or what?

[jackies202]

Lol yes true I'm tired of frogs to be honest

The only issue with this guy too is I said lets meet a Sunday afternoon during the day he want to meet at 7 pm at night you know first time you meet you want to feel comfortable etc

[talaniman]

I get you, screw that frog!! :D

Find one more agreeable to what you want. You found him, and there are PLENTY more.

[Homegirl 50]

You can meet him at your requested time or forget him. It's your choice. He is not the only guy out there.

[jackies202]

True thank you

[catonsville]

Sounds like this frog is not even worth a kiss. Just move on until you find a frog that you might want to kiss. On your terms, the pond is full of frogs.

[jackies202]

Thank you all!

[jackies202]

Hi everyone I wanted to give you a update I was going to go meet this guy one time just to see because he was texting so I said let me give him a chance.. Ok I just found out he doesn't even have a license and never did. He needs to get one.. So would love some input on this. He is 42 how could he not have a license. Thanks

[CravenMorhead]

He is lying to you. This is a HUGE red flag. When lying is identified then trust starts to leave, and without trust there can be no solid romantic relationship.

Move on. There is too many red flags here...

[jackies202]

Also should I respond to his texts and tell him its time to move on or should I just ignore the texts he wanted to see me this weekend.

[talaniman]

We would have no clue why his situation is what it is but I have to ask in all that texting why you have never asked him your questions. That's the beauty and benefit of online dating in that YOU can ask ANY question that pops in your head at ANY TIME. Why one would not take advantage of this opportunity to ask and evaluate the responses is beyond me.

Clearly you should be more aggressive about getting the facts about this fellow and not just fall for his persistent texts. You do yourself no favors by wondering what, and why when you can do your own due diligent digging.

Why have you NOT?

[jackies202]

Yes your right I guess I was falling for his persistent texts without getting the information but now that I have I do find it very strange how could someone not have a license he said he is from Albanian and has been in this country for 20 years but still should have got a license in all these years. he said he getting a car next year.

[joypulv]

jackies202, you are asking total strangers to answer questions that can have a thousand possible answers EACH. It isn't fair to us to have to guess why he doesn't have a license. What good will it do anyway?

Also - You are also only just now finding out more about him. Either find out more online, or take 5 friends with you to meet him in a public place in the daytime!

My question to you is why are you looking for love online? How old are you? What makes you imagine that someone super wonderful isn't able to meet people in person every day?

[jackies202]

Hi would love to meet someone in person. Online I figured It would be easier... I'm 37 by the way. I have decided to stop talking to this guy should I tell him or just not respond to his text. Thank you

[joypulv]

Tell him. After these 3? weeks, it's best to be honest and polite, but clear and short. It's fair to him and it's more likely to prevent a possible retaliation.

But don't get into why.

[jackies202]

Yes thank you your right I will text him my concerns and be honest

[smoothy]

This guy is a TOAD... if he hasn't gotten his license in the last 20 years and STILL doesn't have it, why do you believe he's going to get it next year? If he doesn't live and work in the middle of a major City... you really have to ask yourself WHY?

Then there is the fact he lied about it... which also is another big WHY? Then his strange hour requests for meeting you, another WHY?

Then the biggest one of all. WHY are you wasting time with this obvious loser? Surely you can do better.


Only a couple answers I can think of...

#1. He's a momma's boy and still living at home.
#2. He's an alcoholic thats had his license taken away and he's telling lies.
#3. He's too lazy to hold and keep a real job...

because #4. I'm guessing he doesn't live and work in the heart of NYC one of the very few places a car is a luxury rather than a necessity.