[thresia]

Assalam o Alaikum,
I have a question regarding nikah. After 2 years of engagement I did nikah with my fiancé in 2011 and after 1 years of our nikah we had intimacy secretly before going to his home properly but since he was my husband I didn't regret because I thought I haven't done any sin. We were supposed to have marriage ceremony in 2013 and I will go to his home but then many facts were revealed about him that he hadn't completed his education, he wasn't earning, and other things so my family became opposed and with my consent they ask court for divorce.

I am divorced now it been 3 years. Now the problem is that if any marriage proposal come I am perplexed. Can I tell him about my intimacy where I hadn't been to his home if yes how? If no, then is it justified? Because of this I have been rejecting every proposal, though I know he was my husband but people take it so wrong that I did intimacy secretly.

So I wanted to ask can I hide this from my future husband? If he ask me to take oath on Quran then what I should do?

Kindly explain in detail with references.

[afaroo]

Hello Thresa,

No you should not hide it, Truth does't hurt if you hide it from your future husband the time will come that he will find out about it and then you will be more sorry, if you had Nikah the Islamic way why would you worry about your intimacy, Allah would not punish you for that because he was your husband at at that time, before you accept any marriage proposal please discus the mater with him, I understand each country has their own way, I will also suggest to talk to your Imam and take his advise, good luck.