Check out some similar questions!

rolljeep · Apr 12, 2007, 02:48 PM

My girlfriend has recently stopped allowing me to perform oral on her. We used to perform at least 5X per week and never had any complaints from her. As a matter of fact, I know I am very good because I always get compliments from my GF's and they often ask "where did you learn to do that"

I know she used to be in it and enjoyed it because she would always ask. Now, I might be lucky if she lets me do it 2X a month.

I ask her why she won't let me anymore, and she says she just "does not feel like it"??

I can't get an answer out of her and it is really starting to bother me because it is my favorite act and my "go to move".

What could be wrong??

Fr_Chuck · Apr 12, 2007, 03:05 PM

You tell her you are so good she is tired of hearing about it. She many not like the other girlfriends, since they don't seem to be in the past tense.

And she may be tired of the same old thing and want you to find a new "move"

manimuth · Apr 12, 2007, 03:31 PM

Or she's just not in the mood to get it all the time.

letmetellu · Apr 12, 2007, 03:38 PM

It could be that they are all good actors and it may not be as good as you suspected. Plus your "Go To Move" may have gone and left.

Skell · Apr 12, 2007, 04:17 PM

Sounds like it is time for a new "go to move". Hope you have more than 1 trick up your sleeve (or down your pants)

teachermama3 · Apr 12, 2007, 11:38 PM

I hate to say this... but from a girl point of view, it could mean that she is cheating.

cadeville · Apr 12, 2007, 11:47 PM

Please ask her if her if her sexual appetite has changed. I have been the problem in our sex life & did not realize it was due to medical/medication issues.

AKaeTrue · Apr 13, 2007, 12:12 AM

Maybe you should come up with a more romantic "go to move"...
Girls can only fake it for so long... then they're just ready for it to end... Or for it to never begin in the first place... Sorry Dude.

smoothy · Apr 13, 2007, 05:47 AM

You may need to ask her honestly why and ask her to be honest. Maybe she's sleeping around on you and is afraid you can smell it on her. It also may not be more than you not doing it in a way that gets her going. Trust me in not all women respond to the same stuff.

Jessyfay · Apr 13, 2007, 10:19 AM

I've got just three letters for you... STD
If she loves oral and all of a suddon stopped, probably she's hiding something down there like a boil or a yeast infection or who knows.
I would get you both checked out for std's thou
Something is not right

kp2171 · Apr 13, 2007, 10:30 AM

And before you get too comfy with your "method", my experience is that each woman can be different and each can want different things at different times.

If I did with my current partner what was "money" with my previous partner she'd smack me on the head.

Confidence is good... just don't let it make you brag too much. All it takes is a new partner who doesn't like any of your "moves" to bring you back to earth.

As for why...

Well... it could be that she's not as impressed as you think she is. Does she push you away at orgasm? Not a dead on sign, but in my experience my partners have almost always pushed me away briefly when it gets too intense at climax. A nice little sign to maybe see if she's faking.

Or she might be, as mentioned, fighting a yeast infection and self conscious. It happens.

And the whole cheating thing... well... you can't know this from her response alone. But I could see that as well.

Is she under stress? Getting sleep? Healthy? All of these can change sex drive.

Is she interested in intercourse at all?

Lowtax4eva · Apr 13, 2007, 10:57 AM

Hate to join the more negative views but my first thought was either STD or she's cheating and is worried about you figuring it out somehow by going down.

Does she still want regular sex as often though?

1badchoice · Apr 13, 2007, 12:36 PM

Being divorced twice and now in lesbian relationship... have to say that a lot of men think they give really good oral and don't. You may be too hard, not hard enough, etc. Also, many women don't feel as close emotionally during oral sex as they do during intercourse. Don't discount the possibility of her having yeast infection, being tender (happens sometimes for no real reason), or just wanting more emotional intimacy. She is not automatically cheating but that is possible. She may worry about possible STD's from other lovers. Ultimately, you will not know until you talk about it and ask about each possibility. She may just not be into it. Not everybody likes anal... doesn't mean they are cheating so why should not wanting oral. Good luck

Nosnosna · Apr 13, 2007, 01:04 PM

Short answer: You're making the giving all about you. Yeah, you're supposed to enjoy doing it, but you're clearly more worried about your happiness on this than hers.

If she doesn't want it, she doesn't want it. I doubt we'd even be having this conversation if she'd suddenly decided to not do anal.

EnglishRose · Apr 13, 2007, 05:43 PM

Wow, how many OTT conclusions can people jump to! An STD? Do you really think she would let him do it at all if that was the case? Or have sex for that matter?
Cheating? That is madness, she still has sex with him and there don't seem to be any other major problems so that's just silly, especially the idea that he would smell, or taste another man! She would just wash in that case wouldn't she?!
I think the bragging bit is likely to annoy her though. She doesn't care what another woman liked and she defo isn't going to like the idea that you have don't this with someone else. Some girls like to feel clean when they have oral so some times they don't want ot be pounced on before they've had a bath after a long day but I doubt it is even that.
I would say it is most likely to be boredom. Oral for me is not an every time thing. At first with someone new it is exciting and teasing. A new partner with a new technique makes it new and exciting, even if they aren't great at it. After a while though it can get very much the same every time. If you do the same routing, she will know what is going to happen next. After a while that gets dull. If your not enjoying oral sex it is not a nice experience. It can just get well, soggy, and if it goes on too long or too vigerously, it can make everything go numb. Some girls aren't into it at all and its possible she just does it now because you enjoy it. It is also quiet tiring for us too you know. There's a lot of wiggling about involved, some days you just can't be bothered with all that, kind of like when you just want easy sex rather than position swapping and toys etc. You need to learn to compramise and go with how she is feeling too.
Another thing you could try though is mixing it up a little. Use your hands at the same time, (if she's OK with it) lick further back if you get my drift. Add toys etc.
The best thing to do really would be to ask her.