[TrueShelby]

Sometimes I feel like I'm such a bad person, I often get into fights, I swear, and sometimes do not so appropriate stuff. I make bad decisions.I honestly feel like such a bad person, any advice?

[smoothy]

Getting into anger management should help on part about fights... as far as bad choices... it depends a lot on WHAT they were... and why you did what you did.

How old are you? Also important because teens and children frequently make bad decisions...its immaturity and lack of life experience an adult doing it is a bit different in approach and far more difficult.

The important thing is you recognize you are doing it...so you are receptive to making changes if you can be guided to the right way to make decisions. And more importantly...you appear to want to learn to do better. That's half of the battle right there.

[Wheatleyww]

It will be okay! Try to stop the habit of bad things and innapropriate things and when someone confronts you about it, be honest! When you feel bad about yourself, remember no one is like you and you are special in your own way. When you fall, prop yourself up again! About the fights, if it was your fault you should say sorry and ask for forgiveness on their part. If they won't apologize for something they did I would tell an adult or the principal about them. When people say you are a tattletale, guess what? That isn't even a word so they are just talking jibberish. Just ignore them.

[joannaparker31]

They way you've managed to seek advice here is a good sign that you regret your wrondoings. Just focus on this sort of positive approach and stay calm. Try not to repeat what you think you've done erringly earlier. Try meditating on positive things. Cheers.

[StephanyStevens]

It is your mind which is play all these tricks on you and making you weak. The less you worry the more stronger you will be able to sort things out. When you feel bad immediately switch your attention to something like music, games, building up a conversation or go meet a friend. Basically just start doing something you love the most. Having a pet to home also will help your to evade loneliness and that insecure feeling.

[joypulv]

Being mean, argumentative, nasty = showing others how you feel about yourself. "This is what the world did to me and now I'm going to do it to you."
So tell us what the world did to you.
Anger is preceded by HURT, no matter how brief.

[Fr_Chuck]

Getting into a fight, is a personal choice, it is something you can decide not to do, walk away. It is a matter of moral values (normally)

doing things inappropriate is a matter of choice, I could choice to have sex with 10 women this week, but I chose not to, and to be faithful to my wife.

cursing, is often a issue of culture and habit, and is really hard to break. It takes making an effort to watch your language.

[CravenMorhead]

Sometimes I feel like I'm such a bad person, I often get into fights, I swear, and sometimes do not so appropriate stuff. I make bad decisions.I honestly feel like such a bad person, any advice?

As anyone who has started a 12 step program will tell you, knowing you have a problem is the first step to solving the problem. There is a huge difference between being told that you're a B***h and realizing that you're being a B***h. Once you know and accept that you have a problem, you can start to make changes to fix it.

The first thing is to realize that you're not a bad person. There aren't really many bad people out there. There are people who are psychologically unbalanced but those are less common then you would think.A lot of people get damaged during their youth and early adulthood. It the nurture part of life, events that shape who you are. Your parents divorce, or alcoholic uncle who abused you, or being bullied, or bullying, are all events that shape who you are and how you react to the world. You can ask 10 different people about this and get 11 different answers.

How do you fix this? It is well beyond my skills, I would talk to someone, a counsellor, bartender, or your best friend. You need to explore your past and figure out why you're doing the things you are doing. The best thing I can think of is when you have a moment that you're not proud of, getting into a fight or something some inappropriate for example, you should write it down in a journal and then try to figure out why you did it. What made you angry. This will be painful because sometimes the answer is embarrassing or shameful. Once you know why you're doing what you doing you can start to explore fixing those.

This is to say that simply trying to not be a bad person isn't enough. You might have to, for example, forgive yourself and accept that you did your best, or accept that your parents are human and not perfect and they have to deal with life too and won't make the best decisions. You need to get to the why.

Good luck.