[colonal]

I found a packet of Viagra in my husband's truck with four pills missing. This happened while we were separated he says he uses them to masturbate

[Fr_Chuck]

He masturbates in his truck?

But why would they not, they use viagra if they are not able to get an erection, so if they wish to get hard and have an erection while masturbating, they would use it. It is not needed, a man can masturbate without a erection, but many would prefer.

But with that said, if you were separated, you have no business even asking, what he did, is what he did, no excuses and no questions should be done.

[tickle]

I found a packet of Viagra in my husband's truck with four pills missing. This happened while we were separated he says he uses them to masturbate

If you and he were separated, he didn't owe you an explanation and you had no business asking.

[smoothy]

I agree with the others... since this happened while separated its his business not yours, and that goes both ways.

[Cat1864]

If he has erectile difficulties, it would be understandable.

Were you separated with the understanding you were attempting to work out the issues and save your marriage or were you both walking away from the marriage? If you were not trying to work out the problems with the goal of saving the marriage, then it would not your business who he had sex with or any other details. However, he should be honest about having sexual contact (IF he did) due to the chance of disease/infection or the possibility however slight that a 'baby mama' could show up.

If you don't believe him, ask him to get tested for sexually transmitted diseases/infections.

If infidelity was an issue in the marriage, then you might need to think about whether or not you have forgiven enough to rebuild the trust.

[talaniman]

Why were you separated in the first place? Did he use viagra during your marriage? Why don't you believe his explanation? How long was this separation? How long have you been married?

I don't buy what a spouse does during a separation is none of your business, but some context would help, as big difference between an ongoing situation, and one that exploded over a particular incident.

[joypulv]

I don't know how old he is, but a man I know who was about 60 at the time ran in to the room where I was, laughing and shouting about how he had just been given a sample by his doctor, and it was "The best feeling since he was 16." I'm pretty sure he was talking about using it alone. I assume that it gives quite a rush.

I said that even though I'm 100% with those who say it's none of your business.
Talk with him about what you two can do to mend the marriage instead of snooping.

[Fr_Chuck]

I don't know how old he is, but a man I know who was about 60 at the time ran in to the room where I was, laughing and shouting about how he had just been given a sample by his doctor, and it was "The best feeling since he was 16." I'm pretty sure he was talking about using it alone. I assume that it gives quite a rush.

I said that even though I'm 100% with those who say it's none of your business.
Talk with him about what you two can do to mend the marriage instead of snooping.

It does, I use it, and have for several years. I try to limit the use, due to the side effects, but the days without it, and the days with it, a very, very noticed difference and "rush"

[Questionair]

Technically separation mean there is no basis for questioning, so like everyone else here, I agree that you should stop snooping.