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iseah100 · Aug 29, 2015, 10:41 PM

I was at a wedding and was talking to this girl and danced with her, she seemed cool, before the wedding was over I asked her if she wanted to go out sometime, like to the movies. She replied with "are you just saying that?" Presumably cause I was drinking, and I said no that I liked her, and she said "sure I'll add you on fb". Then I told her I don't get on there and she should give me her number, and she said "why? Let's try fb first. And then we'll see." Tf bruhs? She told my sister I was really cute, but I guess she broke up with her boyfriend a month or so ago, my sister knows her and says she's awkward. Should I add her on fb or wait for her to add me or just forget about it?

iseah100 · Aug 31, 2015, 11:27 AM

Bump...

Wondergirl · Aug 31, 2015, 11:54 AM

Fb????? I wouldn't sit around waiting on this one. Plus, it sounds like you'd end up as a rebound and place keeper until she found Mr. Perfect.

Cat1864 · Aug 31, 2015, 12:30 PM

If you think she is someone you want to get to know better, why not send her a friend request? She may feel she has more control over Fb contact than she does if she gives out her phone number. Plus, it gives both of you a chance to learn more about each other before committing to a 'date'.

Is she 'cool' enough that you would want to be her friend or are you just looking for a date/relationship?

talaniman · Aug 31, 2015, 01:15 PM

I'd "visit" on FB just to make a friendly contact, but wouldn't count on dates, and romance so soon. She may need space after her relationship ended. You need a Plan B involving other options for dating, and romance.

iseah100 · Aug 31, 2015, 01:17 PM

Yea, I think she's cool. I would like to be friends with her, but I think I caught her off guard when I asked her out, she seems awkward, which I like. She did add me the day after, so maybe I should message her just to see how she is... or wait for her to message me?

DrJ · Aug 31, 2015, 01:44 PM

Doesn't sound like much of a rejection. There's nothing wrong with wanting to initiate contact through something like FB. If she is a bit awkward, it is probably more comfortable for her than the directness of a phone call. Plus with the recent breakup, she may not be quite ready but doesn't want to lose contact with you.

Wait it out.. see if she friends you. If too much time passes (a week or so maybe), then send her a message. Personally, I wouldn't friend her. If she hasn't sent a request after a week, I would probably message her to tease her about making me login to FB every hour on the hour for a week looking for the missing friend request (or something like that).

Originally Posted by iseah100

Yea, I think she's cool. I would like to be friends with her, but I think I caught her off guard when I asked her out, she seems awkward, which I like. She did add me the day after, so maybe I should message her just to see how she is... or wait for her to message me?

Sorry.. just saw your post about her already friending you.

Sounds like she held up to her end of the bargain... the next move is on you. Just be respectful of where she is in her life (recent breakup) so don't be too pushy ;)

iseah100 · Aug 31, 2015, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by DrJ

Doesn't sound like much of a rejection. There's nothing wrong with wanting to initiate contact through something like FB. If she is a bit awkward, it is probably more comfortable for her than the directness of a phone call. Plus with the recent breakup, she may not be quite ready but doesn't want to lose contact with you.

Wait it out.. see if she friends you. If too much time passes (a week or so maybe), then send her a message. Personally, I wouldn't friend her. If she hasn't sent a request after a week, I would probably message her to tease her about making me login to FB every hour on the hour for a week looking for the missing friend request (or something like that).

Sorry.. just saw your post about her already friending you.

Sounds like she held up to her end of the bargain... the next move is on you. Just be respectful of where she is in her life (recent breakup) so don't be too pushy ;)

Haha it's cool. That has to be a good sign? I'll message her and just chat it up.

DrJ · Aug 31, 2015, 02:17 PM

Originally Posted by iseah100

Haha it's cool. That has to be a good sign? I'll message her and just chat it up.

Nice! Gotta love those quirky, awkward ones ;)

iseah100 · Aug 31, 2015, 02:17 PM

Originally Posted by DrJ

Nice! Got to love those quirky, awkward ones ;)

Got a thing for them haha