Of course you are confused because you must make a choice, follow the traditions of your elders, or follow your own path. The fine line you walk is to honor both, so tell your father you must achieve to find a wife who has achieved, and thats what you are getting ready for. That buys you time at least without being rude, or disrespectful, but HONEST.
Then talk to your younger brother, Ever ask him what he wants?
He may not be in as big a hurry to marry either. You will feel better that you are not stopping him from what he wants. And stop seeing yourself as a boy who must be told what to do. 25 is no BOY in any culture so don't act like one.
A man can respect his father, AND HIMSELF.
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