[sophie123456]

I am just worried that I am not normal when it comes to relationships. I have never been in a proper relationship before because I won't let myself get into one. I have kissed boys but then I just like to walk away. They always want more. Nearly every time I go on a night out I have boys talking to me asking me on dates, or for my number and they want a relationship in the future or to even go further but I never do. I am scared I never will. I used to get messages and reply but I actually feel sick at the thought of texting someone. I get really scared at the thought of a relationship. I don't know why because all my friends are in relationships and I feel like I want a boyfriend but when I get the chance I really can.t do it. Is that normal?

[talaniman]

I think it's normal for YOU, or anyone who hasn't found the one to take the next step from just dating to romance. There is nothing wrong with your normal either. Not saying you may not be weird in your own way, just saying it's perfectly okay to be.

How old are you?

[CravenMorhead]

I think the best question is to ask why you are scared? You get into a relationship you will get hurt and nothing will stop that. IT is part of the territory. What you're doing is fine, but if you want change you might want a little introspection to allow you understand what you are doing and why.

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...lp-805823.html

Now I understand a bit more of your confusion, and fear.

[DoulaLC]

It sounds as though you haven't met anyone that you really want to have a relationship with just yet. Perfectly normal, in fact, it is better the way you are doing things than the way some girls do... almost desperate to have a boyfriend, getting serious very quickly, having sex to keep him around, etc.

You are allowed to just go out to have fun with a guy... no expectations, just having fun getting to know someone... as in talking and nothing sexual. That's how you learn about other people and what you like and don't like in a guy.

When it's right, you will be more comfortable and actually want to see the person more.

[Oliver2011]

Define "normal" as in a relationship. Read many of these posts and you won't be able to. The key is do what you want to do when you want to do it and it will be normal for you. There's nothing wrong with moving slowly in a relationship and if your partner is worth it he will respect your wishes.

[Fr_Chuck]

Your post seems to suggest that a relationship has to include sex. That is not the case, you can date, go out, have fun and not have sex. It just sounds like you assume any relationship moves to sex quickly. It does not have to.