[aznjayjay]

Okay so I've been seeing this girl for like a month now and everything is going great we click so much in common all is as good. But she has this friend for years now which she convinced me that their only really good friends can I just add on that she always have this fear of losing someone special in her life, that is her biggest fear that being said she admitted that he like her for sometime now but she doesn't feel the same but just a couple of days ago she admitted that they are being each other, all I ever hear from her friend is all negative stuff about him how he doesn't treat him right and this and that, now that its finally out she doesn't want to be in the middle of it and don't want to talk about it, that being said we discuss us I've told her I'll always be here for her whatever happens to our relationship but if it does go sour I need space to heal from then on she snap and end things on the spot with me, I think it's that fear of losing someone close to her that's my guessing why she ended. But its so confusing all day that day was amazing! Planning outings being fun all ended in a couple of minutes! I don't know what to do its so frustrating! I want to amend things just don't know where or what to say to fix things

[Fr_Chuck]

No, most likely it was your talking about what you need, when the relationship ends. You already have an escape plan, telling her when it ends you will need space, but will always be there,

Of course she broke up with you. If you really liked her, you would say, I am always here for you, of course we will not break up.

You talked yourself into this one

[aznjayjay]

That's so true didn't realize it that way! Anyway I can fix this at all?/

[Homegirl 50]

Sounds like a lot of drama for a month relationship. You may have dodged a big mess here. Move on.

[aznjayjay]

Thank you so much for responding helps a lot! Just one more thing when we were still swing each other I always have that fear of the best friend and her hiding their true relationship with me it feels like it going to kill me in the inside! But now that it ended I still feel sad but not as much I'm actually OK ! What's up with that?

[joypulv]

A) you sound young
B) you barely got started

[aznjayjay]

Lol I'm 32

[Homegirl 50]

I think you know things were not right but you miss the idea of her. I also think you are glad it's over

[Jake2008]

So, you are the monkey in the middle. She has you on one side, and another man on the other. And you hope that she chooses you, and put up with this bad situation because you don't have the courage to end the non-relationship.

I think you are absolutely right to tell her, that if she breaks it off with you, you will need time to heal, should, I presume, she decide to come back to you. Not that she was ever there during the past month you've been seeing each other.

But the end of that healing period, shouldn't be going back to her; you heal after a break up, and move on to another, healthier relationship. Why would you go backward?

I don't know why you would wait around to see what she decides to do with YOUR life.

After only a month, you hadn't even developed a good friendship, let alone a solid relationship.

I say get out, and stay out.

[talaniman]

It was great for a month and then got complicated, and fizzled out. Oh Well! Next adventure! Why make this a big deal?