[aldo175]

I have this best friend who is like a brother to me we text all the day for almost a year, our conversations were never boring we always had a blast and always laughed about it. He's a very private person and can be serious so I felt very special that he was so open to me. There were times when he would take long to respond but when he replied he apologized for it and explain why he couldn't, then there were times when he wouldn't explain why anymore I got used to because I know he's attitude.

He later started being mean to me and sarcastic but he would always like to text. He then would take long to respond but I learned to live with it, then a couple of weeks ago he surprised me he was being so nice and always replied right away and was also the one to text first. But from one day to the next he changed drastically and almost never replied to me I asked him why cause I always want to resolve the issues with him I never want to fight and he gets mad when I talked about or ask why he's acting a certain way and I always have to apologize.

He told me got tired of texting all the time. And when I try to text him he always takes forever to respond or texts sarcastically and leaves. I know for sure its just me cause I seen him text other people a lot, and when from time to time when I text him he takes hours to respond but when replies to my friend right away who's right next to me, so I know its about me, what do I do? I don't want to lose him but I don't know what to do anymore I always want to talk about but he doesn't.

[talaniman]

I am afraid you have become way too dependent on one person and take his crap while he goes and comes to you as he pleases. He sucks you back in by being nice and spits you out when he has better things to do. Why do you compromise your own dignity and self respect to keep a fair weather text buddy?

Is your life so revolved around having a text buddy that you are out of balance with the real world or what? Seems like it from what you have written. How old are you both and what's up with texting and not having a real life with real people and real activities?

Real friends shouldn't be that hard to keep, nor is it healthy to be so dependent on one person for your happiness and want total attention from them all the time. I suspect you are addicted to texting this one person and that is not a good thing. Is that all you have to look forward to is texting?

Think about it.

[Oliver2011]

Agree. Real friends are not an effort. I know in my life if someone is too clingy I start to avoid the situation and the person.

[ma0641]

"He told me got tired of texting all the time". A whole day of texting-that's a real life!!

[talaniman]

Leave him alone and prove to yourself that you can do better as far as a friendship goes, and restore your own dignity and self respect! That's the problem, you seem to have none. If you did you wouldn't even consider putting up with his crap!

[dontknownuthin]

After all that texting, he wants to be done with the conversation. I mean really.. I'm a mom and sometimes I want my own son to stop talking to me just so I can have time to myself. Or to focus on something else. Other times, nothing would make me happier than a long phone chat with my son.

The kind of marathon texting you describe would grow tiresome for me even if the other person was the greatest love of my life.

Only text occasionally to make plans to hang out and do something with him and other friends. If he doesn't respond, don't think twice about it... he has a life. And one text doesn't have to turn into a whole day. Be the one to end at least half of the discussions.