[Everything gold]

My boyfriend ask for sex. I said I don't know but he thinks that's a yes. Next Saturday I'm going to a sleep over at my friend house (girl) and he coming because he my friend's brother's friend and he said that we're we are going to do it.

[Wondergirl]

Are you ready to be a mother? Does he have a full-time job and can support you and the baby? (Pssssst, tell him no.)

[Curlyben]

That would be ILLEGAL and more trouble than you have ever seen....

[joypulv]

'I said I don't know but he thinks that's a yes.'

You do know NOW, and it's a NO! 6th grade? Girl, show that you have a mind. What's this I don't know stuff? What kind of boy TELLS a girl that you are going to do it? Just because he asked and you said you don't know?

Save the innermost parts of yourself for years later, when you know what and who you want, when true care and tenderness are the basis for sex. Ugh, 'let's do it?'

OH - and don't let any boy tell you that you are too young to get pregnant. The last girl here whose bf told her that was pregnant at 13. Are you 12?

[DoulaLC]

Want to know how good of a boyfriend he really is?? Try this when you next see him: tell him that you are not ready for something like that and see what he says. If he tries to talk you into it, gets mad, tells you that everyone else is doing it, says that he will find someone else and not be your boyfriend anymore, then you will know that he is just using you and doesn't really care about you or your health.

Those are the kinds of things many boys will tell a girl, even one they may say that they really like or even love, just to get what they want. They aren't thinking about how you could become pregnant, which would be a MAJOR problem at this time in your life. And yes, you can get pregnant the first time that you have sex. He would not stay around to help you, even if he tells you that he would. Sadly, girls are told these things A LOT. You certainly want to believe that your boyfriend would be different, but everyone else thinks that about their boyfriend too.

Again, see what he says when you say no, it's not going to happen anytime soon. My guess is he won't be your boyfriend for very long. He may be cute, he may be funny, he may be nice, but if he doesn't respect you and your well-being, then he is not a good boyfriend.

NEVER allow yourself to get talked into doing anything that you know is not right. Not by a friend, not by a boyfriend... and they will sometimes try to.

Here's another tip: if you are thinking of doing something that you wouldn't want your parents to know about, it probably isn't a good thing to be doing. Keep that in mind. You have to be true to yourself.

[Alty]

Just because he said you're going to do it, doesn't mean you have to. My daughter is in 7th grade, 12 years old, so I'm guessing you're 11? Sweetie, you're too young for this.

Tell mom and Dad that this boy is pressuring you to have sex. Tell them that he plans to show up at a sleepover. If you can't tell mom and dad, make sure that once he comes over, the parents of you friend are aware that you parents could charge them for allowing you and this boy to have sex in their home, while you're under their care, and that that's why he came over.

My son is 16. He's a handsome boy, and a few girls have asked him out. He's not ready for that, and that's his choice. Yes, he likes girls, he plans to date someday, but there's too much pressure to have sex, from both girls and boys. He plans to wait for someone he actually loves, and someone he'll be with forever. At 16 that's unlikely. At 11 it's not likely at all.

Dump this boy, be a kid, because that's what you are. You're much to young to play adult games, and worry about adult consequences.

[Jake2008]

I agree with the answers so far.

The first thing you need to do, is tell your parents. The next thing you do is cancel the sleep over. Do NOT go. You won't be in trouble with your parents. In the year 2014 that we're in, young school girls like yourself are abducted and forced into marriage, forced into having babies, and will never see their parents again. Young girls such as you, are sold as sex slaves in the black market, and also live a very horrid life away from their families.

YOU have it easy to put a stop to what could be the worst, most horrible experience of your life. Think about it.

Have you ever heard the phrase 'NO means NO!'- and 'maybe', or 'I guess', to some boys/men is a 'yes' and a green light. That would be you.

You have been targeted for some reason, by this boy who wants to have sex with you. Think about that too. Predators, particularly sexual predators, look for young, inexperienced people, because they are easier to control. That too, is you. You have no idea what you're getting yourself into by saying 'I guess'...

Can you imagine if you DID have sex with this guy? Let's say he didn't use a condom, and you of course, being too young, are not on the pill. Can you put the next piece in this puzzle? How will you be after allowing this to happen, then getting pregnant?? What happens if you get an STD? (sexually transmitted disease)? Will you be embarrassed to go to the Doctor to get treated- WITH your parents?

If you tell your parents AFTER the fact- think about that too. The police will be involved- the parents who hosted the sleepover, the parents and children who were in the house, social workers, doctors, etc. and think about what happens when you go back to school? What do you think people will think about you who has gone blindly into bed with zero knowledge of sex, and involved every single one of your friends, teachers, etc. This will not be a secret because it is horrifying to think that had you simply said NO, skipped the sleepover, and told your parents, nothing will have been risked, and nothing would have happened.

Clearly two paths to take here.

Think about that.

[Fr_Chuck]

First, you should not say, "I don't know" You just tell him NO, NO, and NO

Text him, call him or see him and just tell him NO, tell him not to come over. If he does, go home.

[recevil]

Since you read the answer so far try this STOP and ask yourself a few in this exact order 1. what would happen if I told my parents? 2. what would happen if I cancelled the sleep over? 3. how will my friends look at me after this? And 4. does he really care about me? After you've asked yourself all these question you probably will have more question well I try to get them all into a yes or no question but if you can't ask us questions ask away I think were all ready to give answers

[Chloe Edwards]

Never say that you don't know. You are too young girl. This was just one boy but just know that no one can say to you that *we are going to this*. Do one thing, learn how to be confident as a teenage girl. This is going to help you a lot. Please do it. Be confident and tell that boy I am not fun that you are going to play with ! And never talk to him.