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    maldita26 Posts: 9, Reputation: 1
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    Oct 23, 2014, 09:54 AM
    Any opinion about mistress ?
    I had a friend.. she's so in love with the guy who had a wife but they separate now.. they had a four daughter.. I'm so concern to her bcoz I know the guy . The guy is an drug addict she knows it but still love him.. she said its not OK but she really love the guy even though she don't have any assurance or trust about the money and things around them.. she is so pathetic.. sometimes she got batterd.. but still love the guy hmmm.. what would I do to help her ?
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    Oct 23, 2014, 09:57 AM
    From what she says, she won't listen to you.
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    Oct 23, 2014, 09:58 AM
    "what would I do to help her ?"

    I would tell her to find friends that know when it's none of their business.

    This is her life and she's allowed to date whomever she chooses. You don't get a vote on that.
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    Oct 23, 2014, 10:11 AM
    She needs far more help than anyone here can give her, or you.
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    Oct 23, 2014, 01:08 PM
    You don't do anything. She's a grown woman, not a child. Who she chooses to date is her business, not yours.

    I suggest you mind your own business and butt out of her life. If you can't do that, walk away from the friendship.
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    Oct 23, 2014, 01:50 PM
    Sadly, some people will put up with a lot in a relationship because they don't want to be alone, or because it is a known situation; the thought of going through leaving and finding someone else seems like too much work.

    How good of friends are you? It sounds as if you have already talked to her about it since she said she's not okay with it, but that she stays because she loves him.

    If she were a very close friend of mine, I would say something. I might tell her that I love her dearly, and that I am afraid for her safety and well being... the battering part is of particular concern. I would have a quiet talk with her and present what I know to be facts, and ask her what she would say to me if I were seeing someone and the situation was the same. Then I would let her know that I would be there for her should she ever need me.

    If she wasn't a very close friend, I would feel badly for her, but take what she said of staying with him as her mind being made up.
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    Oct 29, 2014, 04:43 PM
    Unless you have managed to master the ability of mind control... nothing. Her decision are hers and hers only, all you can be is a supportive friend if you value her as such, because she will need it for sure.
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