Originally Posted by
Jennifer9299
My mother is a raving narcissist. Lately due to loss of control I assume she began the silent treatment with me. Also it seems because my sister had a baby. Rather than be happy and have everyone happy suddenly she's not talking to me. She is highly abusive and wants total control power over me. She has spent years destroying my life and is evil on another level but towards me only. I'm trying to understand why a narcissistic sociopath like her would suddenly CHANGE the abuse of her target suddenly begin playing the silent treatment for extreme control power and to make the target suffer. I get the silent treatment is about power and control and it's pretty disgusting but this is her first time doing it to me and it is not just painful it's like a kind of torture Since even though she's my worst enemy and abuser we also have a dysfunctional kind of trauma bond relationship going on. So her suddenly not talking to me after 35 years of conversation is goijg to be painful for me. How can someone deal with something like this. It's really scary
She hasn't spoken to me in three months. She told my sister she will if I apologize to her for of course nothing. I refuse to apologize to a sociopath who torments me for fun and abuses me then wants an apology. It's like apologizing to someone who raped u then best you. I can't figure out why she seeks to torment me more when her other daughter has a baby
Originally Posted by
Jennifer9299
I even just wanted to talk to her for a minute and she hasn't done so. I even almost had a heart attack and she didn't care to ask how I'm doing it's shocking. She used to hold her phone by her telling people how worried she was about me and how she keeps her phone by her just to take my calls yet now won't talk to me? She even called the police once because I didn't answer my phone for 12 hours. She's a control freak sociopath and I'm stumped at her reasoning and motives but I know they're there. Why would a narcissist control freak up the abuse of a target in the face of a major but positive life event?
Gee... you have a wee a bit of an attitude I see.
If its so horrible to live there and you are an adult... then move out, get your own place and support yourself. Its her house. SHE sets the rules everyone in it must abide. You might find the outside world isn't the Utopia of free will you imagine it is. If you are under 18, then you suck it up until you are and then move out, get a job and support yourself.
If you do have your own place.....then she only has as much control over your life as you let her have....and that falls on you if its the case.
Sorry, but with this much negativity and hatred towards your mother oozing out of every pore of your being. I find it difficult to take much of it seriously because people that tend to to that also tend to have a much greater responsibility for causing the situations they are complaining about.