[recevil]

So there's this pretty girl in gym class but I'm bad with girls. I'm in 7th grade and she's in 8th. So what should I do?

[odinn7]

You should just keep being a kid and not worry about girls until you are older. You are only a kid once and you can't go back...so don't rush it.

[recevil]

I'm her age due to birthday problems in kindergarten I should be in 8th grade plus I really like her and were opasites kind of I only see

[Homegirl 50]

Unless she likes you, there is nothing you can do. At your ages you need to just be friends anyway.

[talaniman]

You learn to talk to girls and be friendly.

[recevil]

That was helpful but I'm scared she will question why I'm talking to her because I'm in 7th grade

[Homegirl 50]

You tell her you are the same age. If she does not want to talk to you just because you're in 7th grade, she is not worth talking to in my opinion, but she may not even care and you won't know until you try.

[recevil]

That's helpful I really think I need to try this but what if I'm not man enough and please don't suggest notes I'm never going down that road again ( didn't work out last time ).

[talaniman]

Relax guy just be friendly to her, other females and everybody. Just be your honest self and stop scaring yourself with what if's. Be natural, and don't worry how people react to you, that's THEIR problem isn't it? You can't make someone like you back like you like them anyway.

[Homegirl 50]

You need to relax. Not man enough, you're what 12/13.

[recevil]

You being a expert must know about the heat of the moment factor right its when your there your about to do but something's saying you you can't something's saying you can I know I should listen to the one saying you can but not everyone is super conifident sometimes I am super conifident but not this time see I feel judged for some actions in fact I hate some of my moral choices I don't feel judged when I'm alone with a girls I like is there a possible way to talk to her alone like I said I only see her in gym class

13 in 6 days

[Homegirl 50]

You need to learn how to talk to a girl in the presence of others. You don't need to be alone with her. Have you ever spoken to her? How did she respond?
You are too young to be thinking about alone time with a girl.

[recevil]

I've never talked to her I'm very mature for my age due to father long talks 1980s it's complicated

[Homegirl 50]

You're 12 and you you're worried about how to talk to a girl in the 8th grade. You don't need to be spending alone time with a girl you can't even talk to when you're in a room with other kids. Your "maturity" has nothing to do with this.

[Wondergirl]

Do you talk to other girls?

[talaniman]

Without the confidence to ask her, NO. There are no magic pills to building confidence. It's a process. It may take a while. Relax and take small steps my young friend. It will happen in time. I know not what you want to hear, but some things can't be rushed by hormones and attractions.

And leave the mistakes of your past behind you and do better. You learned your lesson, didn't you? So don't worry about being judged for them. What do others know? Make any sense, or is your only concern still getting a word alone with this girl? Ask for her number and see what happens. Let us know, if you find the confidence.

[recevil]

For it is not what I say two other women but what I know about them it is not what does she think of me but to just try I have not come to be judged by experts but to know thy knowledge and wisdom my intalect is close to talaniman's I now know it is not the ifs just do don't be scared but be confident.

[Wondergirl]

For it is not what I say two other women but what I know about them it is not what does she think of me but to just try I have not come to be judged by experts but to know thy knowledge and wisdom my intalect is close to talaniman's I now know it is not the ifs just do don't be scared but be confident.

I'm not quite sure what all that means....

Practice with other girls. Watch others (both boys and girls) and how they talk with each other -- the eye contact, the body language, the kidding around, the rise and fall of voices. Intellect has nothing to do with it. Practice!

[talaniman]

Before you get carried away by your newfound confidence, you better know anything can happen, GOOD or BAD. True confidence is found in rejection, as well as acceptance.

[smoothy]

Give up on it... if she even thought of messing around with a younger kid... she will be austricized by everyone in her class and above until she graduates high school.