[starbucksf]

For two and a half years, I have been dating a girl, 24, who is into polyamory (open relationships). She lives with one guy, has time with him, and also sees me. I have given her the world in gifts, moving her twice, money help, shopped with her, brought her flowers..anything to make her smile, been There for her 24/7. She and I claimed our love for each other. I want to be the one guy in her life. But yesterday she spelled it out again, that won't happen. She still wants me around, keeping her guy, me and possibly now a third person. I love this girl. Shall I just be a part timer with her while my love is strong?

[Synnen]

You knew getting into this relationship that she was not going to be exclusive with you.

If you want an exclusive, monogamous relationship, then you need to look elsewhere.

[odinn7]

You are wasting all of your money trying to buy her loyalty to you when she was clear up front about her lifestyle.

If you don't want to be in this position, it is time to end it and find someone else.

[smoothy]

I agree with odinn7 and Synnen, you are decieving yourself, and ignoring the reality here. As was said, you knew all of this going into it, why do you think any of its going to change? Because its not... she didn't decieve you yet you insist on believing the contrary.

You need to distance yourself from her because its clear you want something you can't have and aren't going to have. Distancing yourself from her will save you further upset and anguish and will help you move on.

[talaniman]

You can be one of many until you awaken from your foolishness, or you can be none, and find happiness elsewhere.

Your choice. Obviously you have never learned you cannot control another, or bribe them with gifts to get what you want. Hell you cannot even control yourself it seems.

[Homegirl 50]

Why do you even have to ask? Of course she wants you around, you buy her things. If you want love and a woman who wants one man, you better move on.

[smoothy]

Who doesn't like free stuff and free money and free labor in exchange for a smile and few false promises. She has a great thing going (Feeding off multiple peoples generosity)... you not so much.

[Oliver2011]

I couldn't do it. The fact that someone else would be touching my partner would make me crazy. In a relationship you want your partner to return the 150% you put into it, not 33.33333%. She is getting what she wants because you two or three now allow it to happen.

[ma0641]

Love is blind and she will empty your wallet too. Walk away!

[KeithPullman]

I'm polyamorous, and I have to ask... why are you spending so much money on her? She's an adult. If you enjoy her company and it doesn't interfere with any higher goals you have, then keep seeing her. But do not expect her to ever become exclusive with you.

[smoothy]

We always called that playing the field.