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    erdua17 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jun 12, 2014, 06:56 PM
    No pain losing virginity?
    So I've always heard how painful it is the first time around, but I felt 0 pain is that weird or bad? I also didn't bleed, and I was on top followed by doggy style (which I heard is more painful). I don't know if size has to do with it but my boyfriend is about 7 inches. I don't play vigorous sports, I do use tampons (quite big since I have heavy ones), and I have penetratively masturbated before that. Also I heard it's uncommon to orgasm the first time? Well I did multiple times and also discovered I'm a squirter.. so all of this just seems to be the opposite of what's "normal" I wonder if it really is anyone else like that out there and is it a bad thing?
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    Jun 12, 2014, 07:10 PM
    Every woman is different... their are a lot of variables involved... and the hymen may have been torn while you were playing as a child years ago. A few women have hymens that are so thick a doctor needs to cut them.

    And you aren't a Squirter... thats urine. People watch too many porn movies and believe everything they see. There is absolutely ZERO proof from any professionally recognised study its anything but urine.
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    Jun 12, 2014, 11:51 PM
    So you had no pain, not sure your question, some women do more than other, many women spend 1/2 their life and never orgasm. You are you,
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    Jun 13, 2014, 03:53 AM
    As was said, women are all different. What you have experienced is perfectly "normal" as well.
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    Jun 13, 2014, 08:12 AM
    You're perfectly normal. There are a lot of stories going around about what your first time should be like. Some include unicorns farting rainbows and others a bloody river, but the thing to remember is that they're stories. If you talk to your mother/sisters/friends/random people on the street or internet you will as many different stories. The facts are that all women have a hymen. Just as you're not exactly like your mother/siblings, your hymen in unique to yourself. Some of them cover most of the vagina canal and other cover very little. Some break or are ruptured at a young age, some stay intact until you have sex, and some stay partially intact afterwards.

    The take home message is what happened to you wasn't out of the ordinary and you're fine. Please take this time to consider your life and reproductive future. IF you're not wanting kids right away, please look into birth control of some variety. Keep in mind that you can get pregnant your first time, and pulling out ISN'T birth control. Have a safe and enjoyable sexual life.

    About squirting. There has been no scientific evidence EITHER way on squirting. There is empirical evidence suggesting that there is a unique fluid that can "squirt", while there is a lot of empirical evidence suggesting urine. What you see in Porn is a overly hydrated person who's drank so much water that their urine is essentially clear. At the right time, sploosh! It's all smoke and mirrors. Until we have actual scientific evidence of squirting either way it is really won't be discussed here. It usually devolves into a shouting match and the threads get closed. Which this one will be if discussion of squirting continues.

    Good luck and have fun exploring!

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