[ajw36]

I am currently a senior in high school who is gay but not openly. Only my closest friends know. Anyway in my math class there is a guy (who I will call “B” for now). B would sort of play fight with me in class. He would grab my legs, untie my shoes and take my keys and make me get them from him in a flirtatious way. This goes on for months in the same class. Toward the end of the year this progresses. He started to hang out with me more. When he found out that I started to ride the bus home instead of driving he started to ride the bus I rode on instead of his usual bus and sat right next to me. I take this as a sign that he likes me so I jumped on the opportunity.

One day while playing Xbox live I received a message from him. (a voice message). On the message he literally said “hi smiley face”. I replied with a voice message saying hey. He messaged back saying” what are you doing” and I messaged back saying playing gta 5. And these messages go on for about another 10, 15 minutes and then they started to get more sexual. He would say things like “winky face” and ”heart” repeatedly. I said the same things back to him. Eventually the local mall came up in the conversation and he asked me if I wanted to see a movie or just hang out at the mall and I said sure. The next day came and I had to cancel due to a family member being in the hospital. To this day he and I still talk everyday over Xbox.

I'm not really sure if he is gay or not. He had a girlfriend up until the point when he and I started to hang out. When that happened he broke up with her. (Reasons unknown). I would like to date him. He's a really nice guy but I'm scared to come out to him. What if he's not gay? What if he's just messing around? But what if he IS interested in me? I have a bunch of question in my head. Please help.

[Catsmine]

Keep it friendly. Start with a hug. See how he reacts. If he backs off, you do too. Don't lose a friendship over a perceived flirtation.

[Oliver2011]

From one gay dude to another, that's a tough one. If you say something and he gets totally turned off it could ruin the friendship. And you don't want that. Coming out to people in high school is tough. Do you know him well enough to determine how he will react to it? If the answer is no then I would just let the friendship develop more and see where it takes you.

[talaniman]

I think you just tell him you are gay and see what he does about it. At least being honest upfront will stop the head games.

[odinn7]

Not to offend anyone but...a straight guy will not usually say those kinds of things to another guy....so you must be putting out some kind of signs that he's picking up on.

I agree with Tal...you say your closest friends know...well, try telling this kid.

[Fr_Chuck]

Be yourself, if you are really gay, then why are you hiding it?

Why should he be interested if he thinks you are straight ? You have to tell people and let them know, if you want a boyfriend and a relationship.