Constantly compared to his mother
My boyfriend is constantly comparing me to his mother. For example, when I cook something, he talks about how his mother cooks something similar and how wonderful it always turns out. This makes me feel like I have to prove myself to him that I am as good as his mother is. I know that this needs to be talked about, but I don't know how to bring it up without offending him or his mother. I know that he has a wonderful relationship with her and I think that it is great, but sometimes I feel that he forgets that he is an adult and needs to leave the whole "mama's boy" attitude with his mother. I am very anxious now about everything I do because I know that if I screw up he will bring up the subject of his mother, or worse yet, he will call his mother on advice on how I can fix my mistake, which makes me feel completely embarrassed and inadequate. I know that he doesn't mean to make me feel this way, he really thinks that he is helping, but it only makes it worse. Please advise me on how to bring this up with offending anyone. I don't want to feel bitter about his mother anymore, and he is moving in in 2 weeks I don't think I could handle this constant comparison.
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