[zach1]

My girlfriend and I Have been dating for the last two months, but we had a thing going for a couple months before so I guess in a way you could say we dated for around 4 months. Last night she texted me saying we needed to talk and told me she didn't want to be in a relationship right now but told me she still loved me. She told me she didn't want things to change and that I would always be her best friend and that she still has feelings for me. After writing her a huge message expressing my feelings and emotions she told me she just can't be in a relationship right now and that she really just wants to be friends right now but we can still kiss and stuff here and there that it would be okay because she still had feelings for me. She then said she just needs to do her for a little bit and then she said if we were meant for each other then we would end up back together. I then asked if she really thought we would maybe end up back together and she said there's a chance we will see I don't know. Even if we don't end up back together I guess I'm OK with that and I obviously have to respect her decision but I love her so much. We are still good friends but If there is a chance of us getting back together, what should I do? I love her

[Wondergirl]

She wants her freedom. How do I know? I'm a girl too, and we girls are taught from birth to be very careful not to say things that upset another person. That's what she is doing with you. She is trying to gently say, "It's over," without upsetting you. Unfortunately, this has the opposite effect of giving you hope and making you think you and she will eventually get back together. I can almost guarantee you that won't happen. She wants to break it off completely but is too "nice" and too well trained to say that.

What you should do is move ahead with your life and have as little contact as possible with her.

[zach1]

Thanks for your reply. I guess your right, and that really sucks for me but I guess ill just have to deal with it and move on.

[Wondergirl]

Thanks for your reply. I guess your right, and that really sucks for me but I guess ill just have to deal with it and move on.

And if you see her hanging around with guys and flirting with them, or flirting with one in particular, tuck that into your Men's Book of Facts About Women and feel sorry for him. I've learned the best way to end a relationship is not by being "nice" and trying not to hurt the other person, but just be matter of fact and say it like it is ("This isn't working for me.") and make a clean break. No pussyfooting around, no maybes, no "Let's still be friends." Clean break. Much less pain and misunderstanding that way.

[mmresd]

She probably feels like you two are moving too fast for her pace. Let her back up, give her your silence, and if she really loves you, she will make the decision to be your girlfriend. However, if she decides is better to have her freedom, then you will have to take the break up for what it is and start moving on. It is possible that she just wants to keep you in the sidelines while she experiences other opportunities.

[zach1]

Thanks for the input guys. We talked it out and were on a break for a little bit that way when we et back together things will feel brand new again