[DefaultAteam]

Im madly in love with my girlfriend. In fact plan on marrying her. She told me some news about her past sexual relationship with a guy she shouldn't have been with. Thing is thatthat kind of upsets me. Thing is, I don't know why I care so much. She wasn't with me, every one makes mistakes, Im not the type to judge, and I LOVE HER. I know this won't affect us going forwards but Im the guy that likes to nip things in the bud. Im open to looking within myself and maybe there might be an underlying issue. IDK just please tell me, how do you get over someone's past? How do you let go? Idk if Im insecure about something, I don't know if... I don't know. Lol just help.

[Jake2008]

If she had not told you, you would have been none the wiser, and you wouldn't have the confusing emotions you are having now.

That she did tell you at all (she's certainly not obligated to explain her past sex partners), means that she is mature enough to trust you- with honesty.

Have you been honest with her, with your past sexual partners? How did the discussion come about in the first place? Did she share this just to easer her conscience? Did you, with your past partners?

I don't know what you mean by 'nipping this in the bud'. The bud has already been nipped, so what is it that is bothering you.

You say you aren't the type to judge her, yet it was her 'confession' that that you are judging- whether to further delve into her past, because of her past sexual experience (s)?

You must have some reason why you need to dig into this issue more. I just can't see what it is.