[rebmetpes]

I have been with him for almost 15 months now. He is very supportive and a very sweet guy but he's also insecure and doesn't go out much besides work. So when I go to hang out with my friends I feel guilty when he's always home alone asking me to be there. I'm 21(almost 22) and he's 25 ( almost 26). I also have a lot of big plans to put all of my effort into going to college but If I stay with him Ill have to study and work at the same time to pay for the apartment with him. And I heard med school is hard! I'm so scared Ill fail because of work. It would be easier for me to live with my parents while I attended med school but where would that leave him?? Help!!

P.s. when I want to do something he dosen't like he'll complain until I feel guilty for wanting to do it. So sometimes I don't even talk to him about stuff cause I don't want to deal with him complaining all the time.

[odinn7]

He sounds immature and to be honest, it does sound like he will hold you back.

Right now college is an important step for you. If he can't see that, then he's definitely not right for you. If he makes you feel guilty for having a life, that is also a red flag.

I suspect you already know the answer to what you're asking... I think the fact that you posted this tells me you already know.

[Jake2008]

I agree with Odinn. He has already held you back, and isn't likely to change in holding you back in the future.

He is needy, and his needs will always have to be considered if you move ahead with your plans, which will also be an extra burden to carry.

It sounds like he might be happier with someone more like himself, and you would be happier on your own, tackling med school.

I would quit while you're ahead, and realize that you've invested 15 months of your life already, and be grateful you aren't writing to us after you've been in the relationship 10 years, and only fully realizing what you gave up, to be with him.