Originally Posted by
loveangel170591
Thank you all for your answers, all of you are spot on with the replies.
Have any of you ever been in this situation?
Or a similar one?
I want to try with my current partner, after all everything we have together would be thrown away over a distraction. I would personally never forget myself and would regret it for a long time. Why is it I am looking the other way? I thought when I found love I would be set. It just gets more complicated as times goes on. Ahhh sigh :(
Perhaps the new guy is just a test for myself?
This may sound cheesy but it has gotten me through over 27 years of marriage.
Love is the only emotion people expect to last throughout everything Life can throw at them without putting more energy or effort into keeping it alive. There is a reason fire is a symbol for love. Even the largest forest fire will burn itself out with new energy being added. A candle flame needs to tended and protected or it dies. Personally, I think of it as a garden. It needs care or it get overrun with weeds.
It sounds like both you and X have become complacent and are in a rut. You need to nurture the love. Do little things to show you love him because it feeds the love in you. Talk with him about what you can do together to get the weeds out and let the Love flourish and bloom.
There is a song that comes to mind when things look a bit rough, "If you ever want to see a rainbow, you gotta stand a little rain." If you can work together, this will be a nothing more than a Spring shower.
Good luck.