[anon97]

So I've stopped harming myself for a long time now but I still get the urge to still do it and ever since I've stopped I've became more and more aggressive and anti social, what does this mean?

[SandySun]

It means you have a mental illness and need to get help. Make an appointment with a doctor immediately. They can give you the answers you seek and prescribe medications to make you feel normal and peaceful inside. The feelings you are having are not normal and you do not have to continue to have these feelings.

[N0help4u]

You really would need to talk to a therapist. I can try to look some things up for you later.

[Zea]

It means you have psychological problems.

So, instead of turning your anger inwards, and self-harm, you are now turning it toward others instead.

You need to see a therapist.

[Enigma1999]

I believe that you do need to speak to a therapist. He or she will be able to help you manage that.

There is NO shame in getting professional help. You came on here for help and that's a step in the right direction.

Best of luck.

[anon97]

It means you have a mental illness and need to get help. Make an appointment with a doctor immediately. They can give you the answers you seek and prescribe medications to make you feel normal and peaceful inside. The feelings you are having are not normal and you do not have to continue to have these feelings.

But I'm afraid of taking tablets, they're one of the reason I started and I can't seek doctors help they'll just refer me to a physciatrist

You really would need to talk to a therapist. I can try to look some things up for you later.

Honestly I'm scared I don't feel like I need help, I need a miracle

It means you have psychological problems.

So, instead of turning your anger inwards, and self-harm, you are now turning it toward others instead.

You need to see a therapist.

I know but isn't the feeling mutual or normal

I believe that you do need to speak to a therapist. He or she will be able to help you manage that.

There is NO shame in getting professional help. You came on here for help and that's a step in the right direction.

Best of luck.

Thank you :/

[N0help4u]

What things made you self harm? What things are triggering you wanting to hurt others? When you want to harm others what are you doing about it? Do they know you are having a problem toward them?

[anon97]

what things made you self harm? What things are triggering you wanting to hurt others? When you want to harm others what are you doing about it? Do they know you are having a problem toward them?

Its really little things like mum and dads attitudes towards their marriage (they keep arguing, threatening and fighting), peoples memories (dgrandma passed away 3 weeks ago and nobody seems to understand why I still get upset), I've always wanted a stable family but slim chance of that happening, being bullied, home raids etc... and usually I cuss, slam doors, go to my room (either listening to loud metal to block people out or punching wardrobes or walls :/

[Wondergirl]

What makes you feel like you have no control over your life? School? A friend? A parent? Homework? Grades? A sibling? A bully? ***ADDED*** I see you posted some of this as I was asking these questions.

What would you like to see improve most of all?

[N0help4u]

How old are you? You need to start working toward little goals that can help you be independent when you are old enough to get out of your situation. Like cut grass and do odd jobs to save money. Work on you and try not to deal with the drama

[anon97]

How old are you? You need to start working toward little goals that can help you be independent when you are old enough to get out of your situation. Like cut grass and do odd jobs to save money. Work on you and try not to deal with the drama

I want to be inderpendent and things but ny parents don't trust me to let me go out yet (not even with older girl mates) and I'm sick and tired of saving money up, I've said up £3,500 already and I'm not even allowed to use that money till I'm 18 and mum and dad don't believe in giving money for doing house chorus

What makes you feel like you have no control over your life? school? a friend? a parent? homework? grades? a sibling? a bully? ***ADDED*** I see you posted some of this as I was asking these questions.

What would you like to see improve most of all?

Honestly id just live to see my whole life in a new spective I don't want any of the stupid things that happen to continue I get depressed over tiny things and I usually want help but don't know where to look dads not good at all with talking without shouting and well mums always just telling other people secret things and it just makes me feel so damn useless and sometimes my anger builds up so rater than telling them about my feelings I just think about taking anger out on them and then that leads to me hurting myself

[Wondergirl]

Honestly id just live to see my whole life in a new spective

You're a smart person. Is there some way to start that new life now? You are in charge of your feelings, and you know that cutting and lashing out verbally or physically doesn't accomplish a darn thing.

Is there something else you can do instead -- something positive? What could you do in place of destructive actions? (Don't say eat cookies 'cause then you will get fat!)

[anon97]

You're a smart person. Is there some way to start that new life now? You are in charge of your feelings, and you know that cutting and lashing out verbally or physically doesn't accomplish a darn thing.

Is there something else you can do instead -- something positive? What could you do in place of destructive actions? (Don't say eat cookies 'cause then you will get fat!)

I know taking anger on another person isn't right but sometimes I can't control my feelings, and I feel lime I should lash out (but I haven't as of yet and I'm scared in case it does happen).

Usually id just go to my room and block vouces by listening to music but then doing that gives me time to reflect of stuff I do and that hurts me more...

Ive got a boyfriend and whilst talking to him I'm happy because he understand me but I can't start a new "life" considerring I'm not supposed to trade numbers with a guy let alone date him. :'(

[J_9]

You are 16, correct?

[anon97]

you are 16, correct?

Yes :/, why?

[Catsmine]

yes :/, why?

Here's an idea. Maybe it'll help.

Instead of brooding over how your current situation isn't what you want, start planning how to change it as soon as you're legally able to. You've started saving, that's the hardest part. Check into apartments; you can find photo listings on Real Estate dealer websites. You don't have to contact the dealer, just look. Then look up what kind of dishes you want, what kind of hoover, what furniture you would put in this apartment or that one. Decide which couch would work in several places. How would you decorate each one?

Work up a budget for each listing: rent, water, gas, electric, food, entertainment, transportation, etc.

It's early to be looking for a job, but not for figuring out what kind of job you want. Do you deal with people or animals better? Dog walkers can make out fairly well in cities. You listen to music a bit. Can you clerk at a music store? These are examples of getting paid for what you like doing.

Get a plan worked out for when you become able to change your situation so you can start right then. Circumstances can change, so have some flexibility built in.

In the meantime, you can start counting down the days, the hours, the minutes, until you can make the changes you have planned out.

[anon97]

Here's an idea. Maybe it'll help.

Instead of brooding over how your current situation isn't what you want, start planning how to change it as soon as you're legally able to. You've started saving, that's the hardest part. Check into apartments; you can find photo listings on Real Estate dealer websites. You don't have to contact the dealer, just look. Then look up what kind of dishes you want, what kind of hoover, what furniture you would put in this apartment or that one. Decide which couch would work in several places. How would you decorate each one?

Work up a budget for each listing: rent, water, gas, electric, food, entertainment, transportation, etc.

It's early to be looking for a job, but not for figuring out what kind of job you want. Do you deal with people or animals better? Dog walkers can make out fairly well in cities. You listen to music a bit. Can you clerk at a music store? These are examples of getting paid for what you like doing.

Get a plan worked out for when you become able to change your situation so you can start right then. Circumstances can change, so have some flexibility built in.

In the meantime, you can start counting down the days, the hours, the minutes, until you can make the changes you have planned out.

Wow oh god its stupid that this has made me smile but your suggestion/idea is actually quiet goid I'm genuinely glad you said that... thankyou

[Zea]

Here is what you could try for now:
If you have someone you can trust, then tell them how you feel and talk to them. If you don't have that someone, then write right down what angers you.

If your parents are argumentative with you, then it's better to not argue back with them. Just learn how to let go.

Tell them how you feel.

If they start yelling at you, then be patient and think if you did something to fuel their rage. Redeem yourself if you believe it's your fault. If you think it wasn't your fault, then ask them why.

Report the bullying to your school counselor.
Find better friends. It's better to not be alone, or you are going to be an easy target.

[anon97]

Here is what you could try for now:
If you have someone you can trust, then tell them how you feel and talk to them. If you don’t have that someone, then write right down what angers you.

If your parents are argumentative with you, then it’s better to not argue back with them. Just learn how to let go.

Tell them how you feel.

If they start yelling at you, then be patient and think if you did something to fuel their rage. Redeem yourself if you believe it’s your fault. If you think it wasn’t your fault, then ask them why.

Report the bullying to your school counselor.
Find better friends. It’s better to not be alone, or you are going to be an easy target.

Thank you but its easier said than done and I don't write personal things down anymore considerring my brother read all my thoughts when I had a diary :/ and sometimes I know I'm in the wrong but just can't help it... And when they're in the wrong ill just react the same which is angerly

[Zea]

Well, you only can decide how to deal with your problems.

Practice makes perfect. Learning how to be patient is the same. Who said beginnings are easy?