[Kelismarie]

My husband left me when I got pregnant with our second child, for our baby sitter and my best friend. It was tough, being a pregnant single mother. Once my baby was born and I could start to have somewhat of a life within a few months I met an amazing guy. He adored my kids but he to just got out of a recent relationship.
We were casual for a few months, I didn't bring my kids around and sexually we didn't do anything. We were both taking things slow. As our relationship grew I still had to realize we were not exclusive and he talked to some other people but never hung out with them.
He got to a point when we started to get real close that he backed off. I gave him space and within no time he was telling me he loves me and realized I was what he wanted. Me and the kids. We were then official. A few months later things were going good, we basically lived together and I found out I was pregnant with his baby. A month after this we went to a dance together where he treated me like a stranger, didn't really talk to me all night. Danced with other woman and at the end of the night I caught him kissing another girl, some girl from his past.
So here we are about 10 months later, still together with our new precious baby and I am having a real hard time loving him like I did before. I don't trust him, I don't feel like I'm good enough. I can't seem to get over how he treated me and him kissing another girl? I feel like he is just going to hurt me again. What do I do?

[odinn7]

So did you ever talk to him about what he did or did you just let it slide?

[Kelismarie]

So did you ever talk to him about what he did or did you just let it slide?

We did. He was so mad at himself for putting himself in that situation. He tried to blame the girl for the most part but he said he would never do anything like this again.
I'm not a jealous person but this is making me jealous and I hate feeling this way.

[odinn7]

I understand.

Seems he is not taking responsibility for what he did. To sit there and blame the girl... what is that? It takes two and he could have backed away from her.

Has he given you any reason not to trust him since then?

I think though, since it's been 10 months and you still can't let go of this, you will have problems with the relationship. Maybe you both need some sort of counseling. If you can't get over this and can't learn to trust him again, it's going to be a rough road. With that said, I don't know that I could trust someone like that either.

[Fr_Chuck]

He will do this again, if he is not talking responsibility and blaming others, he will just keep doing what he wants.