[new2you]

I work in a small IT group for a Fortune 500 company. The lead in my group is technically capable but does not manage her personal life well. She has borrowed money from me on several occasions and always paid me back. The last time she borrowed $150 because her electricity was about to be turned off. She did not pay that back on time, so the next time she asked I told her I didn't have money to spare. Two months later a bill collector left a voicemail on my phone saying she had listed me as a reference and they really needed to talk to her (drive time loan). At that point I went to our manager and let her know that I was uncomfortable with the situation. She didn't want to get involved and told me to take it up with my lead. I forwarded the message to her. Since then she has "forgotten" to tell me about work assignments, "forgot" I had changed my work schedule (even though I sent 3 emails and the rest of the group knew of the change), leaves me out of important meetings, etc. Now my company is downsizing and as the lead she will have input. I am a good performer with solid appraisals, and have documentation of these events. Any advice as to what to do?

[N0help4u]

Since you have documentation take it back to the one that told you she didn't want to be involved. She didn't want to be involved because that was your personal between the 2 of you. If you show her proof that she is leaving you in the dark and not giving you your work assignments that's a different story because it IS work related and affects the company.

[ScottGem]

Or ask that you be transferred to a new lead.

[joypulv]

Huge mistake going to the manager over something this personal. I see no future there because of this. Find another job.

[JudyKayTee]

" Two months later a bill collector left a voicemail on my phone saying she had listed me as a reference and they really needed to talk to her (drive time loan). At that point I went to our manager and let her know that I was uncomfortable with the situation."

I have no idea why you went to your Manager over a phone call from a bill collector asking you to have your "friend" call about a past-due bill. You tell the bill collector to stop calling (Federal law) and you tell your "friend" to call the bill collector.

I think the conversation with the Manager was "gotcha!" Debt unpaid, bill collector gives OP leverage, off to the Manager she goes.

Do I also think the solution is a transfer, as Scott suggested? Yes Do I think a written statement to the Manager with enclosures concerning being "out of the loop"? Yes.

Do I think this job is doomed? Yes, if I were the Manager.

The complaint was that a bill collector called one employee looking to collect from another and #1 went to "me" because she wants out of the loop? I'd figure she couldn't handle her personal life and was bringing it into the office. Not good for morale, not good for anyone.

And if there's proof that #2 is cutting out #1 I'd be unhappy about that, too.

Reminds me of the employee who came to me to complain that another employee's husband "came on to her" at a law firm picnic. Guess who got terminated - and not by me, by the managing partner?

[joypulv]

What snowball's chance is there of a transfer? The company is downsizing, the IT dept is small already, and the damage is done. Just hope you are laid off rather than fired.