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101rar · Jul 16, 2013, 03:18 AM

I don't really see it but he tells me I am mean to him so much and I just don't know how to stop. He is sensitive but says I yell and talk to him rudly and it is kind of hard for me to see it. I don't know what to do and I really don't want to lose him. I love him so much and he isn't that happy anymore. It's been almost a year and I don't want it to end now. Please help!

odinn7 · Jul 16, 2013, 04:11 AM

Please help... so what can we do? We're not there to see how you treat him so what are you hoping for? I would say, treat him better and stop yelling at him. It seems simple. If he says you're doing it, then don't do it.

N0help4u · Jul 16, 2013, 06:29 AM

Maybe tell him to randOmly catch you on cam without you knowing so that you can go over it and he can point it out to you.

Wondergirl · Jul 16, 2013, 06:36 AM

Give him a code word ("pancakes" or "Snuffleupagus" or "Titanic") to say to you whenever he thinks you are being mean or rude.

Fr_Chuck · Jul 16, 2013, 06:42 AM

Or perhaps you are not being rude, he is just wanting to break up and is trying to blame you

donnasley · Jul 16, 2013, 06:51 PM

Do you think you are mean or rude? Do others tell you that too? Maybe its just him and he wants to put you down...

mirandalynn1232 · Jul 18, 2013, 10:20 PM

Originally Posted by N0help4u

Maybe tell him to randOmly catch you on cam without you knowing so that you can go over it and he can point it out to you.

Agreed

Enigma1999 · Jul 18, 2013, 10:27 PM

Or maybe he is overly sensitive.

Jake2008 · Jul 19, 2013, 05:29 AM

At least he's telling you what he thinks, and how he feels, about your behavior toward him.

That is a good start.

Now to keep going. Try to have an honest sit-down discussion with him, and ask for examples, or specifics of what you are doing that upsets him, because you just don't see it as you've said.

Try not to assume that you are doing anything wrong, because if it isn't obvious to you, maybe he is overly sensitive and/or looking for a way out, by finding fault with you to justify ending the relationship.

If he can't spend the time to talk, and explain, by example, what you are doing wrong, or, he actually can't specifically say 'this' or 'that' to paint a picture of a situation, or a conversation where he's felt unfairly judged/treated etc. then consider that you may be not doing what he says you are.

Don't be so quick to take 100% of the responsibility for him feeling the way he does, or take 100% of the responsibility for being the cause of it.