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12superdancer · Jul 10, 2013, 10:50 AM

So there's this guy in a few of my classes at school and we're both 15.

And he's always really mean to me (he takes my things out of my blazer, calls me mean names, spread rumours about me and just generally, purposely annoys me).
However, there's this one class where I sit next to him, and he usually acts the same way. But there are often moments were we get alone really well and I start to like him. E.g. Today we had this pen fight and had to do an exercise with our phones, and we were just talking like friends, and I really liked that. This has been going on for about half a year now.

I know people say that often when a guy is mean to you, it means that they like you. Does he like me? Or is he just a jerk? I think his friends are influencing him, but I'm not sure. Any ideas?

teacherjenn4 · Jul 10, 2013, 10:53 AM

Ask him. It's that simple.

12superdancer · Jul 10, 2013, 10:56 AM

But he's out of my league, and I've never dated anyone like him before. I don't want to embarrass myself

N0help4u · Jul 10, 2013, 11:04 AM

Give him an ultimatum, tell him to play nice or else ignore that you even exist.

odinn7 · Jul 10, 2013, 11:14 AM

When boys are mean to you, it usually means they like you... But I'm talking about boys... grade school age. A 15 year old being mean to you just kind of shows me that he's an immature idiot. Does he like you? Maybe... we don't know. If you're afraid to ask, there's nothing else we can do to help you.

Wondergirl · Jul 10, 2013, 12:18 PM

Originally Posted by 12superdancer

oh lol, can't spell! so any ideas?

I taught 3rd grade. The boys in that grade punched girls they liked. By teenage, they grow out of that, This guy is locked in an arrested development stage, so I would avoid him until he grows up..

N0help4u · Jul 10, 2013, 12:28 PM

She has to be in 9th grade. I got treated like that by a group of guys up until 10th grade.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 10, 2013, 03:42 PM

At 15 the guy ought to know better, He sounds like a pompous azz. I would not give the time of day to a guy who calls me names, starts rumors and annoys me. I'd tell him if he can't be decent all of the time, don't talk to me at all. He is doing what you allow him to do especially if you get all goo goo eyed when he decides to be nice.

Alty · Jul 10, 2013, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by 12superdancer

But he's out of my league, and I've never dated anyone like him before. I don't want to embarrass myself

If you won't ask him, you'll never know. You're asking us to tell you how he feels. There's only one person that knows how he feels, and that's him.

So either ask him, or forget about it. Those are your options.

But, I have to see I agree with the others. Boys in grade school are mean to the girls they like. At 15 they don't normally do that. So he either really doesn't like you, or he's at a grade school level emotionally. Either way, not dating material.

cownamedbessie · Jul 10, 2013, 05:15 PM

I think he might like you. But don't just straight out ask him he might decline and laugh in your face etc. just try hinting at things but like make it kind obvious because guys usually don't notice the little things like that. Smile at him from across the room you know small things like that things that could stay just between the two of you

JudyKayTee · Jul 19, 2013, 07:28 AM

If this is how he treats you when he likes you, imagine how he'll treat you if he falls in love with you.

He's too immature to be in a relationship.

I'd simply ignore him.

talaniman · Jul 19, 2013, 08:11 AM

I don't think his maturity level or behavior merits you even considering giving him any other attention other than class mate. He has to grow up quite a bit in my view.

12superdancer · Jul 23, 2013, 01:40 PM

So there's this guy in a few of my classes and we're both 15.
I've had a mini crush on him for quite a few months now, but recently it's gotten stronger.
I've talked to him a couple of times on Facebook, and tried to flirt with him in PE whilst playing basketball, and we did a small class presentation together a couple months back. He's always been really nice, friendly and sweet towards me, but I'm so out of his league.
I've worked with some of his friends in class before, but never hung out with them, and not so comfortable to do so.
I want to get to know him better and spend more time with him without embarrassing myself.
What should I do?

talaniman · Jul 23, 2013, 02:07 PM

Of course you threads were merged and yet again I think you may have to wait for this guy to grow up, or show some interest. He obviously doesn't feel the same as you do for sure. I sure don't think you chase him, or put yourself out there to far.

MASTERBEARDOG · Jul 23, 2013, 02:18 PM

Just ask him out hon

JudyKayTee · Jul 23, 2013, 02:22 PM

"just ask him out hon"

She's 15 - I don't think asking out someone who is rude and upsets her is a good idea. What am I missing?

MASTERBEARDOG · Jul 23, 2013, 02:30 PM

Well judy I am 24 when I was 15 I done the same thing 2 my now beautiful wife and it made us th@ much closer we have been together 4 9 yrs now and she has changed my attitude a lot

And further more superdancer give him your num if he calls you u will know exactly how he feels

Alty · Jul 23, 2013, 04:28 PM

Originally Posted by MASTERBEARDOG

well judy I am 24 when I was 15 I done the same thing 2 my now beautiful wife and it made us th@ much closer we have been 2gether 4 9 yrs now and she has changed my attitude a lot

and futher more superdancer give him ur num if he calls u u will know exactly how he feels

MASTERBEARDOG, if you're 24, surely you know how to write properly. Text talk is against the rules of this site. Please write using complete words and sentences, and use the best English you're capable of. Most of us cannot decode text talk, and this is an international site where English text talk would be impossible to understand for many.

Thank you.

JudyKayTee · Jul 23, 2013, 06:01 PM

"MASTERBEARDOG, if you're 24, surely you know how to write properly. Text talk is against the rules of this site. Please write using complete words and sentences, and use the best English you're capable of. Most of us cannot decode text talk, and this is an international site where English text talk would be impossible to understand for many. "

Third time he's been told - and counting.

And as far as what you "done" to your NOW beautiful wife - I do not recommend that any female make a decision at 15 that impacts the rest of her life. Good that it worked out for you. I trust she finished her education, is well employed, can survive if something happens to her 15-year-old love?

What made you closer? Your rude treatment of her? Something else? I'm missing your point here.

Homegirl 50 · Jul 23, 2013, 06:18 PM

Originally Posted by 12superdancer

So there's this guy in a few of my classes and we're both 15.
I've had a mini crush on him for quite a few months now, but recently it's gotten stronger.
I've talked to him a couple of times on Facebook, and tried to flirt with him in PE whilst playing basketball, and we did a small class presentation together a couple months back. He's always been really nice, friendly and sweet towards me, but I'm so out of his league.
I've worked with some of his friends in class before, but never hung out with them, and not so comfortable to do so.
I want to get to know him better and spend more time with him without embarrassing myself.
What should I do?

Is this the same guy who was rude and spread rumors or has the story changed?