Originally Posted by
Lovemylocs
He's not on any meds it's being done by diet he was determine to loose the weight mostly in his gut and he did. No high blood pressure at all he was one of the lucky ones. And yes they did say sex won't be the same but damn this is crazy no touching,holding,kissing nothing we use to do things together now it's all about him.
You also said you have been gong through a lot lately. Has there been an increase in stress and distractions? If so, they are other libido limiters.
Has he had his testosterone levels checked?
Something else to keep in mind is that pressure to have sex can cause a person's libido to shut down. It can also cause them to shy away from anything that might lead to sex. They can get to the point where they are afraid to show even the slightest amount of affection for fear the partner will want more than they can give.
You might see if showing him affection and non-sexual intimacy with no thought of having sex might help. Let him see that sex isn't the only thing you want from him and it is safe to show love and affection.
Talk with about what is going on. Listen to each other and try to work together to find ways to adapt to the changes. Don't make it about what you did in the past. Look forward and think about what you might try in the future.
Good luck.