[bigcountryintn]

So me and my wife separated after seven years of marriage. We have been separated for two years now and have a little girl who is five. I moved out of our house we shared. She's been seeing another man now for almost a year. However, after paying a lawyer she never signed the divorce papers. She now filed for bankruptcy and says she wants to talk to me. She even thought of moving in with me. We have been hanging out and going places. Even sexual at one point. She says she in love with this boyfriend. My question is does she want me back or is she just confused. I told her don't hurt me that I will always love her and my arms are always open.

[joypulv]

Chances are the boyfriend is perpetually broke, sorry. You are looking good to her as a means of support and security. I could be wrong, of course, but I suggest that you be cautious, and I would tell her why. She must be lying to the boyfriend about seeing you and having sex with you, so that's a sign that she's playing both ends against the middle. She does sound like she's being forthright with you, however, about loving the guy. You have a better sense of this than any strangers!
You don't have to close your heart and eliminate all options, just listen to what she has to say and do lots of thinking, preferably for days, before you reply.
Also, please read this
Legal Effects When Only One Spouse Files for Bankruptcy | LegalMatch Law Library

[bigcountryintn]

Yes her boyfriend has always been broke. He bounces back with either no job or a small part time job. His check when he does get paid goes toward childsupport. Interesting enough he doesn't see his kids. He also has never had any means of transportation and has been caught shoplifting where I work. Overall he's a joke in my opinion. Now as far as bankruptcy I filed with her. She has tried before said she had feelings for me but at the time I was dating around I stopped worked on her and it just didn't work out.

[talaniman]

Listen to what she has to say but don't get carried away by the sex, that you do something foolish. Looking better than a broke petty thief is not to a broke ex wife is nothing to brag about.

I mean she already kicked you out once.

[bigcountryintn]

Thank you guys for your help. Well she has been lying to her boyfriend and hanging out with me. She also told me she loves him but has feelings for me. She then asked what do you want me to do. I told her I just want her happy. Im not sure what's going to happen. I know and can tell she has fun with me and doesn't want to leave.

[joypulv]

Your daughter is certainly a major factor in any decisions you make.
But don't be a pushover.
She could go back to you and leave you again just as easily as she did before, only more so.

[bigcountryintn]

Yes she is the number one factor absolutely. Wish me the very best of luck and we shall see what happens. Your exactly right she can drop me very fast but ill give the shoulder shrug and walk away. Im much stronger now than I was before.

[Alty]

She's said point blank that she's in love with the boyfriend, and merely has feelings for you. Sounds to me like she wants someone to pay the bills, and she'll give you a little bit of slap in tickle to get it, but at the end of the day, the boyfriend is the one she wants to be with, the one she goes home to, the one she loves. His only downfall is that he can't support her, he can't put food on the table. You can.

My opinion is that she's using you. If you're okay with being used, then go for it. But I'd bet money that she's only using you, that the boyfriend is the one she really wants to be with, for whatever reason. You're just a sugar daddy.

That's my opinion. Sorry if it's harsh.

[JudyKayTee]

Just in case anyone cares the separation became null the moment you had sex with your estranged wife. If either one of you decides to pursue the divorce - and it's not solely her decision whether to divorce. I don't understand that part - either one of you can raise that defense to the separation agreement and the process would have to start all over again.

Maybe the boyfriend is less than stellar. You, on the other hand, are a "given," a port in a storm, a guaranteed "good time," someone who will love her no matter what.

Is that what you want for yourself?

And aren't you at all concerned about your child, how this back and forth is affecting her, how the boyfriend is affecting her life (if it is)?