[probdeals]

After my girlfriend broke up with me I convinced her we should try again and then broke up with her days later. It was hard on me but she was sending messages about her heartbreak constantly. I offered to make amends again if she was willing to sacrifice and compromise with me. No response, but some late night texts that let me know she was hurting.


A week later I came right out and said I want her, need her and want to make this work. She responded a week later that my reasons for breaking up were just and that she is just going to be alone. She stated that work is going well and she is enjoying spending time with her kids. I told her this wasn't what I wanted to hear but was prepared for it since it took days to get a response from my gesture. I have not made contact since this conversation but wonder if she is possibly playing games or should I just completely give up hope?

One thing I have noticed is that while her time on Facebook was a big impediment to our relationship, she has gone for 6-10 posts a day to 1-2 a week. Advise? Input?

Let me also interject that when she told me all was good I stated that I am happy for her and the fact that she was content, to which she responded "no, I'm not content."

[Handyman2007]

I can never understand why when people ":break up" they continue to communicate right after. You need to separate from each other for a while instead of keeping the wounds open.

[Oliver2011]

Eh drama!! Why do you want this much drama in your life? Move on and find someone else. Or take time off and have fun. Bottomline is you all crossed over the we have to have drama all the time line. It's hard to get back to a drama free relationship at that point.

[talaniman]

Make this a clean break until the dust has settled because all you are doing now is stirring up confusion. Ever try to figure things out through confusion and mind games? You generally draw the wrong conclusions.

[probdeals]

A couple of months ago I went through a painful breakup. My ex quickly found a new boyfriend. After a month of no contact she called me texted me last week and asked if she could call to make arrangements to get me a few items back. It was a hat, a couple pairs of boxers and a golf shirt. Appears to have been an excuse for contact She mentioned we could meet at lunch rather than her leave them on her porch as we did soon after the breakup. I mentioned scheduling would be difficult last week and she should give me a call this week to set something up. Now it is next week and I am wondering if she will call or if I should call her. Thoughts.

[J_9]

We don't know if she will call you, but you should NOT contact her. Keep the no contact going. Keep busy. If she contacts you tell her that the break up is still too fresh to meet up and that you would rather keep your plan that she drop the items off when you are not available.

[lightning14j]

It depends if you still like her or not and to what level you like her to

[talaniman]

Tell her you don't need the items and do what she wants with them. She has a boyfriend now, and maybe this is an excuse, but don't play that game and fall into more misery than you are already in. No excuses. If the items were so important, you would have got them when you broke up.

No, I would not call to set up anything with her, nor would I have anytime for her.

[N0help4u]

You miss her she sees you but you both know it won't work. You seem to be wanting to make it work but on your terms and it seems she would rather be alone

[N0help4u]

It depends if you still like her or not and to what level you like her to

No, its about respecting her space. Ie is through ugh
With him and he keeps contacting her its ntot goingto do any good. The ball is in her court

[none12345]

Now that she already has another boyfriend, there is nothing else you can do but forget about her.