[Darkbodies76]

Ok in a nutshell I have had a friend for over 20 years, had our ups and downs like any other friendship but a lot more of disappointments and down moments then good moments. Several years ago the friend moved far away I was sad about it, but now the person is back and I could honestly care less because I am tired of being hurt by this person for so many years. Now once the person is settled they are going to ask me why I haven't bothered to be in touch knowing that the person is in the process of moving back and I will get an earful of totally putting me down in every which way etc. I don't know how to or have the courage to finally tell them how I feel that I really don't want to be friends anymore because of all the hurt caused by them over the years, what should I say?

[odinn7]

You need to find the courage to tell them how you feel of you will never be able to clear yourself from this.

[talaniman]

Obviously there are more people involved in this so my question is are these common friends you have kept or a group of people you are looking to avoid. Confusing a written.

[Darkbodies76]

No actually eventho we have known one another forever, we don't have many mutual friends, so that isn't an issue.

[talaniman]

Then I don't see what the issue is since you can choose not to have anything to do with them what so ever.