When my son was small, I restricted television to one half hour television program a day, which I chose, until he was a competent reader. I did not have video games in the house until he was in 7th grade. For some kids, television and other electronics can train them to look at the page and expect it to do something and move and entertain them. So, it's best they learn to read well first.
At your kid's age, I would restrict television to one hour a day. If Sponge Bob is their choice, fine. However, they have to earn the privilege. Since they are walking all over you, I would keep the remote on your person until they have earned it for the day.
They are old enough to understand rules, which need to be posted in clear view on your refrigerator.
First, they need some downtime to play - without electronics - when they get home from school. Perhaps they can play while you prepare dinner. After dinner, while you do the dishes, they sit at the kitchen table and do homework. They must show you that their assignments are written in their planners from school and show you the homework assignments, completed and done to your satisfaction, before they are excused from the table. If they have spelling words or tests in other subjects, they have to study that material as well before they are excused. You can quiz them on the material to see if they are learning it adequately.
When they are done with homework and studying, they have to organize their stuff and put it in their backpacks. Then they straighten their rooms if it needs doing, complete any other chores, shower or bathe, put on their pajamas and then can be rewarded with that hour of television or other screen time. Not both. If they want to use the computer, it's instead of television - unless it's for school. If it's for school, you need to supervise to make sure that's all they are doing.
After the hour, you turn the television off. They brush their teeth and go to bed. When they are in bed, you watch what you want.
If you do this, your kids will be great students, their chores will be done, you'll teach them to stick to a schedule and you'll have a peaceful home.
Have a clear and predictable bedtime routine, too. I always permitted my son to stay up one half hour in bed to read books. He was not allowed to have any electronic devices in his room except a basic alarm clock. No radio, television, computer, cell phone. His room was for reading, resting and sleeping and that was it. If he did not feel like reading, it was lights out. He learned to like reading.
It's important to maintain discipline. If the child does not cooperate with study time, chores, bathing, clearing their plate from the table or other basic expectations, they loose their television time and go to bed early instead. If you follow through, they will figure it out.
You reserve the right to reward them with extras. I would avoid making the extra television or other screen time.
I used a sticker chart. If my son set the table, cleared his plate, did his homework without nagging, kept his room in order, took his shower and other responsibilities without nagging, he earned star stickers. He got a dollar for every day that he was fully cooperative with my responsibility chart on the refrigerator. This taught him to work for his money.
He could also earn checks - which were for bad behavior. I didn't look for bad behavior but if he blew off a homework assignment, argued about doing his chores, didn't make his bed, mouthed off rudely or lied to me, he would get checks. He lost a star for every check. So, it literally cost him to misbehave. There were other consequences as well like lost television time, earlier bedtimes or lost privileges.
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