[Iridescentalive]

I realize, now, that throughout my lifetime- I have always been “Second Best.”
I was never really anyone’s first option when it came to a lot of things like friendships & relationships, and it’s been hurting me to think about it. It seems as though people would choose others before even considering wasting their time on me.

As a recent example:

Just a month ago, on Valentine ’s Day (cliché, I know), I found out the very guy that stole my heart using the words “I love you” chose another girl over me. It took me weeks until that “heartache” feeling left me, but the idea of him giving up on me to be with another female hurt me too much…

And that made me think: “why am I never the one chosen over another?”

I’m not really the “confident” type of person, but when it comes to the people I love- I try to be the most dedicated, loyal, and honest girl that I could possibly be to make my counterpart truly happy. I love seeing my loved ones smile, even when it means I’m breaking inside to accomplish that.

I know most people tread on the “outside” before even considering to get to know someone, and that’s a part of life…but it hurts when I open myself to someone, just so I can be left to be an “option.”

[pseudopodia3]

Its just your paranoid mind.
Don't take things much seriously and always keep a 'I don't give a ' attitude. That wouldautomatically attract people to you.
And also stop being clingy.
Always try to be perfect in whatevr u choose to do.
Live life hapilly and people will love u.

[Iridescentalive]

Its just your paranoid mind.
Dont take things much seriously and always keep a 'I dont give a ' attitude. That wouldautomatically attract people to you.
And also stop being clingy.
Always try to be perfect in whatevr u choose to do.
Live life hapilly and people will love u.

Thank you!
I needed something to 'wake me up.'

[joypulv]

'I try to be the most dedicated, loyal, and honest girl that I could possibly be to make my counterpart truly happy.' - Relationships aren't about making the other person happy. They are about being yourself and being liked for that, and compromising a bit here and there, both of you, over time.
' I love seeing my loved ones smile, even when it means I'm breaking inside to accomplish that. ' - Martyrdom will get you nowhere. It just makes people uncomfortable, and is usually the first thing that sends them running.

Be your own person FIRST. Be able to live with yourself, to have interests and opinions and a path in life. Do not live your life for someone else. What are the odds of having a lifelong dedicated love? Almost nil.

[Iridescentalive]

'I try to be the most dedicated, loyal, and honest girl that I could possibly be to make my counterpart truly happy.' - Relationships aren't about making the other person happy. They are about being yourself and being liked for that, and compromising a bit here and there, both of you, over time.
' I love seeing my loved ones smile, even when it means I’m breaking inside to accomplish that. ' - Martyrdom will get you nowhere. It just makes people uncomfortable, and is usually the first thing that sends them running.

Be your own person FIRST. Be able to live with yourself, to have interests and opinions and a path in life. Do not live your life for someone else. What are the odds of having a lifelong dedicated love? Almost nil.

True, and now that I look over what I wrote, it does seem a little desperate. I should be my own person, before getting involved in those type of things- at least so I can find myself.
Thank you, for the advice!