[AirborneSally82]

Ok here's the thing! Me and my boyfriend have just started having sex, he was my first. I am a naturally kinky person (my mind runs wild and there is so much I want to do) and I know he would probably like something other then missionary style, I know he would like me on top! The thing is I'm shy! And since I don't know how to do the girl on top thing I don't want to look like a totally idiot! Any advice? I want to get over my shyness so I can let my inner wild child out, but I kind of want to know how to do it before I try it!

[tishee_76]

Hi AirborneSally82
82? So your 15ish? Naughty naughty.. Wat haappen to sweet 16... hee hee
Im 30 and been in a reletionship for 14 years and still going strong in the bedroom..
Saying this, My most embarrassing moments have been with my man... in the bedroom!
But because we are such good friends and talk about sex regularly it relieves a lot of unneeded stress and tension..

I feel a little uneasy giving advice to you without stressing the importance of using protection for pregnancy and diseases..
Im hoping you're a mature lass for your age and already taken sex education into account..

Other than that, my secret was to watch a few porn movies (as grossed out as it seems) and watch the motion and actions of a woman on top..
To be truthful I'm no pro on top either but I've learnt some other tricks to compensate for that.. Heehee..

I hope this helped..
Good Luck and be safe..

[Capuchin]

Sadly your math is skewed, being born in 82 would make her 25ish, if that's even what the 82 is about.

[tishee_76]

I feel better it took a science expert to pick that up.. hee.. oops..

[AirborneSally82]

Haha I'm 19! 82 stands for 82nd Airborne, my Unit.
I have actually watched some porn just for that reason, I just still think I will muck it up with him.

[EnglishRose]

Its not really something you can give advice on. I would start with Doggy style, because I found it kind of flows easier from there. If your not sure about something the best thing to do is admit it to your bloke, he won't mind, men love to think they've taught you something new! 2nd I would invest in some lubrication. You might not usually need it but it just makes trying new thing run more smoothly. Take your time, maybe have a few drinks first then and most importanatly, make sure your willing to laugh about it if things go wrong! I'm sure there are some lovely websites that will give you diagrams on the technical aspects
Good luck x

[Beverly Novak]

Your problem is self love and exceptance, this can be overcome by one standing in front of a mirror and using positive self talk, also you need to take small steps out of your confort zone, the more you practice this the easier it will get setting you free to be as wild as you want to be, this can help in most areas of your life. P.S. I also advize that you avoid using porno to fix this problem, because it can lead to a lot worse problems than the one you are dealing with now! Good Luck. God bless and protect you, your newest friend Beverly Novak. Have a GREAT DAY!

[bobetta]

Ok. This is a complicated question. Well if your shy just go with what he wants first then go wild

[AirborneSally82]

Yeah I know it's a complicated question. Thanks for all the help though, Im sure that when we spend this weekend together I will let my more wild side out!

[tishee_76]

YOU GO GIRL!

And don't forget to laugh together..
And never be afraid to slow it down or stop if your not enjoying it..
Have fun learning.. I'm still learning and still haven fun.. (and still mucking it up)

[Skell]

Communication. Don't be afraid to talk to your boyfriend about what you have on your mind. Tell him your fantasies and about your kinky side. Im sure he will be as excited as any male would be to here this about their girlfriend.

Sure I understand it can be difficult and as you say your shy. But if there is one person you should be comfortable talking to about sex it is the person you having it with. Not that black and white I know but that must make a little sense to you??

I think you should just swallow your fear and talk to him. I bet the response you get from him solves your shyness problem. Just a hunch!

[smoothy]

Me and my wife are both shy types publicly, but we are comfortable enough with each other to be able to suggest, talk about or try almost anything once. Twice if we like it. :D But then, 16.5 years of marriage can do that.