[b12345]

We dated a long time ago, he was very affectionate. We went apart for 13 years and he was with someone else. That relationship was toxic and now we are back together. I tell him I love him all time and he tells me same but there’s no hugs, kisses, there is sex but it isn’t intimate, doesn’t feel like love. I know he’s been hurt, so how do I get the old affection back.

[odinn7]

You don't. It is something he needs to do and if he's not doing it, then you will just continue the way you are now.

[talaniman]

Sorry, but its hard to love when you are hurting. He has to stop hurting. You sound like a rebound so let me ask how long ago did he get out of the toxic relationship, how old are you both?13 years can change a person a lot.