[sferguson1967]

I am getting ready to go back to my divorce attorney because my ex husband hasn't followed our divorce papers since they were finalized. Before I do, I have a question regarding his arrangements at his house. He is remarried and his wife has 2 kids and we have 2 kids, all boys. They live in a 2 bedroom house and as far as I know, have no plans to move anytime soon. All 4 boys have to share a bedroom. Our oldest son is getting ready to turn 13 next month and I feel he needs his own room/space. The ages of the other 3 boys are 10 (my other son) and her kids are 10 and 9 I believe. I would not have a problem if my kids shared a room and her kids shared a room but they all have to share one room. Is there anything, legally, I can do about this? I am custodial parent. They live with me and my ex has visitation Wednesdays and Thursdays overnight and every other weekend. Any information would be much appreciated!

[Curlyben]

There aren't any laws covering this, although there are recommendations, but they vary based on location.

[sferguson1967]

Wow that was totally uncalled for Angie4124. You don't know anything about my situation so for you to call me a loathsome trouble-making ex-wife is beyond uncalled for. How about a father who pays his court ordered child support whenever he sees fit, stops paying for his children's childcare because he "doesn't feel he should have to pay" or one that doesn't abide by what the judge ordered as far as the children's well-being is concerned? I was simply asking a question and if I wanted to ask my attorney about it then I am entitled. They are MY children as well and I have every right to be concerned about their well-being and what goes on at their father's house. I am hardly troublesome when it comes to my ex. Quite the opposite... he has gotten away with much more than he should have these last 7 months since our divorce was finalized. I am also hardly a quibbling petty minded mother either. Trust me... I have chosen my battles wisely the last few years. That's why my ex husband thinks he can get away with what he has, but it won't be for much longer. The question about them sharing a room was just a question. I was looking for some help. Never said I was going to my attorney about it. Maybe you should stop and think before you reply to someone's post, especially when you don't know all the facts or background to the situation.

[JudyKayTee]

If you believe the sleeping arrangements are not in the best interest of your children, yes, go back to Court and let a Judge decide. Maybe you have a mother's gut instinct. Maybe you don't.

If the "complaint" is vindictive, then I'd rethink my motives - but if it makes you uneasy, certainly, ask for legal advice.

[JudyKayTee]

"Furthermore; do not think for one second that an Attorney cares for your boys 100%; they get paid, period! An Attorney has to eat and provide for their lifestyle/family too… Hence you're just contributing financial donations to their betterment and depriving it from your boy's!"

Sorry, cannot quote so I have to paste.

On behalf of everyone, everywhere in the legal profession you are incorrect. An Attorney represents his/her client 100%. If you have specific knowledge that an Attorney (or Attorneys) are making recommendations, settling short, doing anything unethical I would suggest that you report it to the
Bar in your area.

This type of generalization is harmful and untrue.