[km1890]

HI,

I am in love with this girl from last 5 yrs, but had not let her know. She had been engaged 2 times, but marriage was called off last moment, I had not been in contact with her when these thing happened, In the mean time I also had got married but am divorced now.

I met this girl around 3-4 months back (after my divorce) and are in continuous contact with each other. Everyday we speak for around 3-4 hrs. We have became good friends.

The thing is that feeling of love has developed in me, and I had let her know my feelings to her, She is still in state of mind of not to get marry with anyone because of her past relation and she says she finds good friend in me.

How should I convince her to marry me??

[Oliver2011]

Slow the train down there a bit. You are taking this a little fast.

First off, why were both her engagements called off? Does she have a fear of commitment? Some other reason?

Do you talk on the phone with her or in person? It sounds to me as if you two are in the beginning stages of getting to know each other. Let it happen naturally without rushing it. If you rush it then it sounds like you will be the third engagement called off.

[talaniman]

Do you work with her or something?

[dontknownuthin]

You can't convince someone to marry you. Where are you from? Is it acceptable in your culture to date? How about starting with a movie and dinner, take it slow and let her get to see you as a man and not just a friend.

[Homegirl 50]

You can't convince her to marry you if she does not want to marry or sees you only as a friend. You need to slow down a bit. You have only been talking to her 3 or 4 months.I would not marry you either in that short a period.

[km1890]

Thanks dear,

I think I should give little space & time for our relation to grow.

Pray for me, I succeed in this,

[Fr_Chuck]

Yes let it go for a while, as your culture allows, spend time with her in person, and get to know her

[mark25624]

You're divorced!
Her 2 engagements called off!

You see a problem, here?
You! Are burned by divorce once burned!
Twice shy!

She has every reason to think, feel this way!
You rush!
You lose her!!

I know that you may think that she is the 1!!
But! She is not so sure.
Time is on her side!!
She is the 1 who needs to make sure that this time around!!
Is the 1 for her!

Not because you think you know what is best for her... You!!
That is not what she thinks!

Let her decide who she wants to be with.
And! Since she likes having you for a friend!!
Let it ride and enjoy her company as she does yours!

[Thirdtime]

I think the problem here is you wanted to get her to ''MARRY'' you straight away! I think this is impossible because she hadn't known you well.Though you had immense love for her she might don't have any for you.
Why don't you start asking her out for as much as you could so she developed a something in her for you... and when there is something in there she will start to get her attention on you.
That could be then the right time to ask.

[mark25624]

Prove and show her just who you really are.
No fakes!
Be yourself no one else.
Just you.
She needs to see the real you.
So she can think and perhaps make up her mind and think "This just maybe the one!"
Remember what she has gone through!
She does not want to make another mistake.

She wants to be sure it sounds like to me.
Don't rush.